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User Topic: It was bound to happen
AML04
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Default  Posted: 7:48 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Had written out a REALLY long post detailing an interaction with WH that went very bad pretty quickly. I feel like we have the same conversation over and over but I don't see the effort I'm looking for. I finally got SO frustrated I ran into the bathroom, slammed the door and threw everything I could get my hands on!! I ended up curled up in a ball in the tub sobbing my face off.

I don't have a point to this post other than to say for any of you holding in your frustration/anger, it's probably better to let it out if you don't want to end up a crying mess trying to clean lotion off the wall and glass off the floor while snot is running down your face


Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
T-13 M-9
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13.
Hopeful for R

Posts: 844 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
TheAmazingWondertwin
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Default  Posted: 7:57 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

AML- oh I feel your pain. And your image at the end made me chuckle- not at your pain but at how I can relate. I broke on the living room couch at three am screaming and crying into my poor cats fur like she was my teddy bear when i was 5. She was very good about it. Meowed at me and walked to the other side of the couch.
I completely lost it.
He came out and said "you don't have to sleep on the couch."

Seriously? I have a complete mental breakdown and youre worried about me sleeping in the couch?!?

I hate those. But I'm proud of you- you let it out. Didn't realize how much you were holding in huh? Yes, I have been there. It does get better.

(((((AML)))))


Everyday is a new day, some good, some bad.
Me- BS 39
Him- FWS
14 years- 2 middle school children
DDay- 07-24-2013
NC broken from August 6- 24, 2013
Avalanche of Truth on November 14, 2013
Length of A: June 10th to Dday- with broken NC

Posts: 474 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: East Coast
AML04
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks WT :)

You can definitely chuckle because I'm sure it was a sight to behold!! I've done that with my cats too

The end result is almost funnier (not in haha way). He had come in and tried to comfort me but still felt like he wasn't getting it. He then had to go check on our son which was when I started cleaning. I calmed myself enough to go out into the kitchen and he's sitting on the floor crying, holding our s. He gets up, apologizes, says he sees he's not doing enough and I end up comforting him!!! It's weird but sometimes seeing him breakdown calms me. Is that weird??


Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
T-13 M-9
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13.
Hopeful for R

Posts: 844 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
cantaccept
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Default  Posted: 8:16 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had my first all out anger, sobbing, "creative expression" explosion on Saturday.

I felt so good after, made me realize how much I had been holding in. Now I am going to try to get it out when I feel it instead of letting build up into an explosion.

But my God! What a feeling of relief to get that out!


Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely.

I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh boots5050
attempted R, it was all a lie

Divorced 8/5/14


Posts: 1310 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Connecticut
AML04
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Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It really was!!! I felt like a crazy person but God was it cathartic!


Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
T-13 M-9
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13.
Hopeful for R

Posts: 844 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
topperoff22
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Default  Posted: 2:59 PM, October 24th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Been here. Done this. A lot.


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 3:13 PM, October 24th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How are you feeling today, AML?


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6359 | Registered: Jan 2011
AML04
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Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, October 24th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel better but I can still feel the frustration lurking. WH and I have talked more and he says he understands and will work at giving me what I need but right now it's an I'll believe it when I see of type of thing. I'm hopeful though, I always am.

Thank you so much for checking in on me.

(((Topper)))


Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
T-13 M-9
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13.
Hopeful for R

Posts: 844 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
eachdayisvictory
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Default  Posted: 3:59 PM, October 24th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hell yes, done this 3 times so far. Once to my H (not good, not proud, was a huge setback) and twice safely with inanimate objects. I smashed up my sons' plastic toolbox with a sledgehammer after a very challenging conversation. Felt like a million bucks. I even smiled a little as I picked up the pieces.

Considering a baseball bat and a tree for the next time.

For real.


me, BW: 34
FWH: 35
Dday: Feb 2013
LTA for 2+years
children: 2 boys age 3 and 6
Reconciling

Posts: 378 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: nova Scotia, Canada
TheAmazingWondertwin
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Default  Posted: 4:10 PM, October 24th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think the common theme here is ... We felt better afterwards.
Even if only temporarily.
We all try to be so adult and calm about things.
It makes me laugh how much we are struggling to make sure WE seem sane.
This is one example of a situation where a person should be allowed to go crazy.
Im glad you're feeling better though :) hugs to you!


Everyday is a new day, some good, some bad.
Me- BS 39
Him- FWS
14 years- 2 middle school children
DDay- 07-24-2013
NC broken from August 6- 24, 2013
Avalanche of Truth on November 14, 2013
Length of A: June 10th to Dday- with broken NC

Posts: 474 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: East Coast
AML04
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Default  Posted: 5:24 PM, October 24th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Right??? This is crazy-making stuff!!

I might try the baseball bat and the tree :)

WH has a drum set I could bang away on but I'm afraid if I was too angry if trash it. I went through a lot if trouble getting that for him while I was pregnant so I'm better off staying away.


Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
T-13 M-9
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13.
Hopeful for R

Posts: 844 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 5:30 PM, October 24th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had a few of those experiences. They are pretty brutal. One time I kind of "blacked out" and found myself curled in a ball on the floor of my closet. Ugh.

Be kind to yourself today. Might be time for a mani or facial!


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6359 | Registered: Jan 2011
AML04
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Default  Posted: 5:36 PM, October 24th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That sounds awesome!

The mani/facial not the curled up in a ball on the floor the closet ((Rebreather))


Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
T-13 M-9
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13.
Hopeful for R

Posts: 844 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
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