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User Topic: Calling them out
losingmyground
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Default  Posted: 1:45 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So about 5 months after Dday we had a big event at the bar I work at. One of my friends brought one of her single friends up. My husband came up later. I was really busy, but smiled when I could and made sure everything was being taken care of.

This single girl happened to be drunk and jumped over our fence which injured her ankle. My husband gave her a ride home. Trust me when I found out I laid into him about it. Definitely not a good boundary.

Next day she sends him a message on facebook to let him know she broke her ankle and gave her cell phone number saying they should hang out sometime.

I of course found this because I was still in detective mode.

Well she showed up the other night and started acting like an snob. She asked my name while ordering a drink and I gave it to her. When I came back I asked her name, then clarified her last name. She asked how I knew her. Told her "You broke your ankle jumping our fence and then proceeded to send my husband, a married man, your phone number through facebook saying you guys should hang out." The look on her face was priceless.

She then proceeded to leave her child at the bar with another couple without warning and then had the child met them out front to be picked up.

I wonder if she will ever approach a married man again.


Married 13 yrs
3 kids 13, 10 & 1
I'm 34
FWH 37
Affair lasted 6 months
Ended 09/2011
Found out 06/2012
My father died during the affair
In the middle of Reconcilliation

Posts: 291 | Registered: Jul 2012
heartbroken2012
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Default  Posted: 1:51 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Im glad you called her out. This is great!


BS(Me) - 32
WS(HUbbie) - 40
OW - 44 (a ugly, old, white trash horse faced Coworker)
Affair was 2 months long
3 kids - 5yr old, and twins 8 months
Dday - 12/25/12 (lots of signs before I should have seen)

Posts: 454 | Registered: Jan 2013
momentintime
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Member # 16394
Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, she should shy away. You called her out. However, did she know your H was married? Why didn't your friend take her home, and why didn't she clue her in that he was your husband!

I know, questions, questions. But I hope you WS understands his lack of boundaries hurts your M.


BS-me FWS - him
D-day 8/04
R'd

"Global editing disclaimer - I edit almost everything I post, and I am not going to post why every time."...re: Bionical girl


Posts: 2820 | Registered: Sep 2007 | From: New York
jstbreathe
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Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you for putting out the trash!


The trust of the innocent is the liar's most useful tool.
Stephen King
Me: BW
Him: WH
Married: 18 years
2 sons, 11&15
Trying to R

Posts: 143 | Registered: Sep 2013
losingmyground
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Default  Posted: 2:01 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, she should shy away. You called her out. However, did she know your H was married?

Yes she knew he was married. He wore a ring, she had access to his facebook which states that we are married and I am sure my friend informed her as she was aware of the affair to begin with.

Why didn't your friend take her home, and why didn't she clue her in that he was your husband!

Our mutual friend had already left for the evening. Which is why my husband gave her a ride. He didn't think there was anything wrong with helping out a friend of a friend. I set him straight on that one.

I know, questions, questions. But I hope you WS understands his lack of boundaries hurts your M.

Oh trust me...he gets it NOW. To bad it wasn't just plain common sense to him before.


Married 13 yrs
3 kids 13, 10 & 1
I'm 34
FWH 37
Affair lasted 6 months
Ended 09/2011
Found out 06/2012
My father died during the affair
In the middle of Reconcilliation

Posts: 291 | Registered: Jul 2012
losingmyground
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Member # 36070
Default  Posted: 2:02 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And she is a known man user. Get what she wants and doesn't care about the rest.


Married 13 yrs
3 kids 13, 10 & 1
I'm 34
FWH 37
Affair lasted 6 months
Ended 09/2011
Found out 06/2012
My father died during the affair
In the middle of Reconcilliation

Posts: 291 | Registered: Jul 2012
SoOver96
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Default  Posted: 2:20 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you calling her out
I'm glad he has on his relationship status as married to show that he is taken
The rings though certain females like gutter fish troll do not care. We have tats for our rings he can't take it off.

Also why is this woman taking her child to a bar in our town children can not go in a bar at all unless it's a small town or relatives bar but they have to leave by nine


Posts: 170 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Illinois
losingmyground
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Member # 36070
Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We are a restaurant too. Although they were not ordering food.

By law out here if the kitchen is open then kids can be there.

We have eliminated a lot of the kids by getting rid of games and limiting the kids menu.

It upset quite a few coaches and parents, but I would rather them eat and leave then hangout for hours drinking while I try to dodge kids running around.


Married 13 yrs
3 kids 13, 10 & 1
I'm 34
FWH 37
Affair lasted 6 months
Ended 09/2011
Found out 06/2012
My father died during the affair
In the middle of Reconcilliation

Posts: 291 | Registered: Jul 2012
Ostrich80
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Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 2:57 PM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She will move on to another man, married or not because she has no boundaries but at least you set her ass straight on your man. I cant stand bitches like that. Good for you!!


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..divorced slut who prefers committed men, specializing in befriending and bopping the fathers of her kids team mates
Status..%&$#@?$

Posts: 3959 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
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