One of the issues on the physical part is that I would like to have breast augmentation done. I really have the smallest boobs ever and always wanted some. Not big ones but some that would least fill out a B cup. I can picture myself looking so much better and feel better about my appearance.
The problem is, my H does not like "fake" boobs. He is very strong on this point. He likes me as I am and doesn't want me to get it done.
I really want them, but I have to sleep with him also, and knowing how he feels would really put a barrier between us.
I don't know what to do and just thought I would throw this out and get some opinions.
I chose to get a breast augmentation because mine were wretched. They were literally touching my navel, I think in part due to sudden weight gain, and then my sudden weight loss. My self image was shot to shit, to say the least.
There are a lot of people who look down on this particular surgery, which is why I always hesitate to come forward in regards to something like this. But having a breast augmentation was one of the best decisions I have ever made.
Definitely shop around for doctors, and check out the forums. There are tons of forums for this, and they are very helpful.
Good luck with your decision!
[This message edited by Dark Inertia at 7:57 PM, October 21st (Monday)]
I can picture myself looking so much better and feel better about my appearance.
The only thing I would ask - Did you want one before A?
If not try & get to why now?
BTW I would kill for a boob job, soon as I get the money. I lost 200lbs and mine are not under my chin anymore
4 kiddos in lower 20's
“Slide the weight from your shoulders and move forward. You are afraid you might forget, but you never will. You will forgive and remember."
D-Day, June 10, 2012
I did not have my boobs done but did get lipo under my chin. It bothered me since my teen years and for the last few years I would make an appt and then cancelled. Well. The A broke my hesitation. I was tired of putting off a decision I wanted to do for years. Tired of putting me last! It was not a necessity. It was a want. So what? I am so glad I did it.
Your H doesn't want you to do this? But you do. It's your life and your intentions sound pure.
This is major surgery, with any major surgery there are risks. Those risks include, post op infections, hospital acquired MRSA, poor results, if incisions become infected the results can be scars and disfigurement . Then in the worst case death from anesthetic, or form the above stated infections.
I find that with cosmetic surgery becoming so common now, people forget the risks.
If you have children, please consider above all that the could be left without their mother. All because of new boobs.
The choice is ALWAYS up to the individual, but I believe that everyone should make an informed choice.
Good luck whatever your choice
I love my boobs! I thought tummy tuck would make biggest difference, but by far, I feel best about the breast augmentation,
(i had lost 100 lbs and breast fed 3 kids. Previously ample boobs were deflated. Now a generous C but natural feeling and looking. I also stressed to my surgeon the importance of natural. "Tear drop"shape., no stuck on beach balls!!
Augmentation was easiest recovery of tummy tuck, thigh lipo, and BA I had done together.
But.. New boobs didn't keep him my wh from cheating. Make sure it's for you, not for Fwh or to compete with ow. They Can help self confidence IMO. Good luck!
Two things that come to mind:
Augmented breasts need changing so this won't be a one off operation so can you afford the upkeep?
Also, was you wanting them bigger something that's come to light only since his A? If it is you need to really think about whether yo are doing it to boost your esteem based on his actions as that would be like having a boob job to try to cure him of alcoholism etc.
Good luck in your decision and please keep us posted.
[This message edited by MrsDoubtfire at 9:01 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday)]
And letitout - you get them if you want them!! You do what is right for YOU. I know two people that got them - both husbands said they liked natural, and both LOVE the new boobs their wives got.
Couple things to consider. A lot of guys think that when their wife gets a boob job, divorce is around the corner. and I mean a LOT of guys think that. Boob jobs are a signal to husbands that their wife wants other men to look at them. Out of the blue the other day my wife and I were with a group of friends and subject came up. One of the first things said was "you know what happens after a boob job". Nearly EVERYONE in the group said "divorce". Is your husband afraid that you want them for other reasons.....? Talk!!!!!! It is your body ultimately, but if you're working as a healthy couple, isn't it his too?
If you're afraid it'll put a barrier between you, especially in bed, I hope you both get on the same comfort level before having it done.
I am my WS' "young wife", thin w/boobs, cute, fun-loving, hot in bed... He still cheated. After I found out about his A, I found a million and one things I could change about my appearance and our home... But his A had nothing to do with any that. (Incidentally, having access to their secret email account gave me access to MCOW's google search history and when he dumped her like a hot potato, she was googling all kinds of plastic surgery procedures).
Just goes to prove we all fall into that trap. I would wait a good year or more. Spend some time in counselling. Oftentimes latent issues bubble to the surface in the wake if an A and this can give them the illusion of being "legitimate" and give them more power and urgency, just by the dint of the fact they have "returned" (or always seemed to "be there".
We are in R.