Right and wrong is sometimes hard to pin down.
Right for whom? Wrong for whom?
What I think is more to the point is this...
Does this hurt you? And if it does, shouldn't he want to do whatever he can to help you?
I personally think you are NOT wrong. I am in the same situation - my Wh is rugsweeping and defensive.
But whether we are right or wrong, we deserve to be treated with love and respect.
Hugs to you!"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy