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User Topic: NaNoWriMo???
Healing2012
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Default  Posted: 11:42 AM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is anyone on here participating in National Novel Writing Month? I have a few non-SI friends doing it, but thought it might be nice to "buddy up" with someone who understands what I'm going through - dealing with the A, separation, and possibly D. It doesn't matter to me if you're the BS or the WS...it's still a very tough situation to be in.

I sure hope I'm not the only one crazy enough to sign up during this chaotic time in my life !


BS: Me (41)
WS: Husband (47)
Married 9 years
Two children 6 & 17 (my stepson)
D-day #1: 12/18/11
D-day #2: 8/26/12 (still in contact w/ OW)
Status: Separated - not R, not D.

Posts: 359 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Midwest
inconnu
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Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've tried it in the past, but never finished. I haven't signed up for it this year in part because I know I won't have the time, but mostly because my brain is kinda fried from work and I haven't been in a writing frame of mind in months.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


Posts: 12164 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 2:05 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had intended to do it, and may still, but I'm not terribly reliable at the moment. I can certainly cheer you on, Healing!


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 25726 | Registered: Aug 2011
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 3:13 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Every year, for the last few years, I've told myself that I'm going to give it a go.
Then every year, so far, my schedule is so hectic that I have to put it off yet again.


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6525 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
travels
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Default  Posted: 3:30 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep, I'm doing it. I was just thinking I needed to start a thread about it.

This is my fourth year doing it. I've finished the last three years. My biggest advice is not to get behind. I find it "painful" to try and catchup.

Also, I don't have a problem getting to the 25,000 mark. It's 25,000-40,000 that I struggle with. Last year I started a little reward system for myself. at 25,000 words I had cheesecake. Then every 5,000 words after I had another "reward."

I'm still working on my rewards this year.


When one door closes, another door opens. It's the journey through the hallway that sucks.

Posts: 3777 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: PA
DecimatedHeart
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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am going to do it. Try and pick up the one I started during last year's NaNo before DDay blew it all to hell.


Me, BS 41
Him WH 42 - LTA, EA/PA
Together 24 years
DD13 - the love of my life
DDay#1 11/10/2012
DDay#4 4/5/2013 (NC broken AGAIN)
A supposedly over 6/14/2013

All my posts are edited - I hate typos. :)


Posts: 129 | Registered: Nov 2012
Threnody
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Default  Posted: 4:51 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've done it but never finished because of one crisis or another. I started a novella-manuscript a few days ago using the same goals, although I've dropped the word count to something manageable for my life right now. In April I hope to have it finished and begin work on transforming it into a screenplay.

If you haven't yet read No Plot, No Problem, go get it. It will help give you encouragement.


“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown

Posts: 14040 | Registered: Jun 2003 | From: Middle-of-Diddly, TX
Alex CR
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Default  Posted: 5:03 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I actually completed it last year....was a challenge for me as I had been so discombobulated since Dday....it felt good to be able to hit the 50K mark. ...have been thinking about doing it again but haven't quite committed yet......


BS Me 61
WS Him 62
Married 33
Together 40
DD 11/16/09
The future looks good....

Posts: 1713 | Registered: Mar 2010
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 5:40 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well...I registered today. I'll start working on an outline over the next couple of weeks, but we'll see...


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6525 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
travels
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Default  Posted: 6:20 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I second "No Plot, No Problem."


When one door closes, another door opens. It's the journey through the hallway that sucks.

Posts: 3777 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: PA
knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just signed up. First time...


FWW 40's
D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

I edit often because I make a lot of typos. ☺️


Posts: 1499 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 8:55 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For those that have done this before, do you have any tips for us noobs?


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6525 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
sadone29
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Default  Posted: 8:58 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I signed up but I'm not sure if I'll do it. I'm well into my current novel. I have an idea for another book, but I haven't planned anything yet. I don't know if I can mentally let go of my current book for that long either!


DDay Feb. 28, 2013
"I am pretty sure enforcing the boundary is the most important part of the boundary"- Jerry Seinfeld

Posts: 769 | Registered: Mar 2013
StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 11:22 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For those that have done this before, do you have any tips for us noobs?

Sit down and do it. Don't tell yourself you'll catch up later.

Don't edit as you go. Just write, even if it sucks. Go back and fix it after you gained ground or finished.


"You have insulted my footwear."

Posts: 7477 | Registered: May 2010 | From: USA
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 11:27 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't edit as you go. Just write, even if it sucks.
This will be challenging for me, but I'm looking forward to giving it a go.

Thanks for the tips!


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6525 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
Softcentre
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Default  Posted: 1:59 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh, the whole thing is one big trigger for me

I would have loved to do it before all this


Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' likes strong but broken OW
OW - EA - 'Holy Chick'
COW - Suspected EA/PA 'The Ambassador'
COW - Susp EA 'The Baker'
COW - EA/PA 'Fat Bottomed Girl'
COW - Susp EA 'MiniMe'

Posts: 1052 | Registered: May 2013 | From: UK
knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 7:30 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I downloaded " No Plot, No Problem" and read most of it last night.


FWW 40's
D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

I edit often because I make a lot of typos. ☺️


Posts: 1499 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 10:48 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm in. First time, but I am a writer, so at least I have that going for me.

Stephen King's On Writing is a great resource, too.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8841 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
travels
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Default  Posted: 2:15 AM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My biggest tip is not to get behind.

Second, don't edit. The whole point of it is to just write and get it out. One year I had a point of view shift that would be confusing in a published novel. Look at it like a rough draft. It bothered me to not edit, but I just kept on writing.
Someone at a write-in I attended had a major time span problem. He was doing flashbacks or something and his main character would have been the same age as his grandparents. There wasn't time to go back and adjust the years so he just kept on typing away and fixed it in December.

Give yourself a small reward. See my post above about my small rewards. It helps me.

If you do get behind, good luck! Don't try to catchup all at once. I just try to add an extra couple hundred words a day until I catch up.

Every year I hit a snag where my characters keep doing something where there is a low point. Usually it happens when I'm tired. One year my characters kept "shrugging." Another year there was a lot of "blinking blankly." Can't wait to see what they start doing this year.

ETA: Those of us who attend a weekly write-in also have characters we throw in if we really get stuck. Usually they make no sense to the story, but can get the creativity flowing and add a few hundred words to your daily count. One year, it was Smurfs. I was stuck with my character in the house and nowhere else to go. So I threw in a scene about Smurfs being her only friend as a child. It actually added a lot to my character's backstory. Last year it was trolls. I tossed a troll in and suddenly I had a love story that let me write 5,000 words on a Saturday.

[This message edited by travels at 2:22 AM, October 23rd (Wednesday)]


When one door closes, another door opens. It's the journey through the hallway that sucks.

Posts: 3777 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: PA
sadone29
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Default  Posted: 8:17 AM, October 23rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I liked No Plot, No Problem, but I've found other books to be much more helpful for me.
One that has saved my current book is Story Physics by Larry Brooks.
I used to be purely a pantser (someone who does no planning), but something always seemed off with my writing. With his beat sheet, I've planned just enough to know where to put big turning points in the book. I love it so much! I'm not constantly wondering what scene I should be writing and it's making things go much more smoothly.

If anyone's interested, here's the beat sheet:
http://storyfix.com/blank-beat-sheet-form

[This message edited by sadone29 at 8:18 AM, October 23rd (Wednesday)]


DDay Feb. 28, 2013
"I am pretty sure enforcing the boundary is the most important part of the boundary"- Jerry Seinfeld

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