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User Topic: Crappy Trigger
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Default  Posted: 9:56 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So 3 years ago KB rear-ended someone in rush hour traffic. It, thankfully, being rush hour he was going >5mph. Basically a "bump". Anyway, he bumped his little car into big 4X4 truck. Big truck, barely a scratch; little car front end totaled.

So, DDay#2 comes around and he's coming clean...pretty much the end of TT. Turns out he was texting one of his APs when it happened. I remember just nodding and adding it to my mental list of how he's screwed up our M royally. Well, 3 year mark is coming around, so I reminded him he needed to contact the insurance company to make sure it's dropped off. Then it all came back. I triggered (and still am) hard.

Ugh...more in the cost of adultery. Deductible, rental, ticket and 3 years of higher insurance rates. Makes me want to puke.

Just call me Heart. :)
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything" ~Mark Twain

Posts: 379 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: St. Louis
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Default  Posted: 10:00 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Heart)))) I'm sorry, honey.

You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams

Posts: 25343 | Registered: Aug 2011
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Default  Posted: 6:57 AM, October 17th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


It really is amazing how an A sends its tentacles through the rest of your life. Nothing is unaffected.

I hope today is better for you.

Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12

One should rather die than be betrayed. There is no deceit in death. It delivers precisely what it has promised. Betrayal, though ... betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope. ~Steven Deitz

Posts: 1138 | Registered: Jul 2012
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Default  Posted: 6:59 AM, October 17th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2584 | Registered: Aug 2012
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Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, October 17th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Triggers suck, but I can't help thinking every trigger is a step toward healing....


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

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