But you have been cheated on; when your husband goes looking for sex with other women that counts as cheating. You are right to be concerned and it is normal to be upset.
Please read from the Healing Library in the upper left corner.
Your H needs to do some real soul searching. Please don't rule out counseling; there may be low cost alternatives available in your area.
Please take measures not to get pregnant right now.
Good luck honey.
Is this correct?
1) Man1 has children with Woman1
2) Man1 has affair with Woman2 (Who has 1 child from before)
3) Man1 divorces Woman1 and moves in with Woman2
4) Woman2 has affair
5) Man1 impregnates Woman2, despite attempting to throw her out.
6) You marry Man1, and form an attachment to the children
7) You find out Man1 is looking for hookups.
[This message edited by VeryHurtbroken at 1:00 AM, October 17th (Thursday)]
"If only I can fight just a little longer, I know it's gonna make me stronger" Jamie Grace-Holding on.
So I feel that until I know for sure who he is ... I might take a wrong decision...
In my opinion you should have had this question answered before getting married to him. Right now you seemed very confused with all the unknowns that could happen with any decision you make. I suggest instead of concentrating on what could happen you look at what has happened. Based on actual fact and what you do know about this man. The only path needed points in one direction in my opinion. And that is to get away as fast as you can. Your married to a person who has a history of cheating, who most likely has mental issues, who he himself acknowledges does not know who he is. The man is 37 years old, yet acts like a immature teenager. I feel your lucky that you did not have children with this man. Find yourself a man who can be the guy you need in your life. The one your with can not or will not be able to fill the shoes of being a man. If you stay with him I only see many more years of suffering for you. All he has going for him right now is his ability to talk his way through life. Sure he talks a good game. But his actions say differently. Good luck and welcome.
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks