All of us on this site are showing courage to move past societys limit of "Your wife cheated? Cut your losses and move on!" What if we listened to people who said "She did what to you?!? After all you have done for her?!?!"? I tell you what would have happened for me....I would be D right now, or at least in the process there of. I would have missed growing to my potential...have grown so much since I did not listen to societys message. I would have fallen short again if I had not changed my perspective.
I could not do this without the support of my family and friends and people like you and especially without Christ. My counselor said to me that many people say to walk away after infidelity, but said Christ does not walk away from us when we sin and we should try to show the same to our WSs. SHe said it is easier said than done, however. And of course, in some cases, it will have to be up to Christ to forgive and the spouse to say "I just can't...you've done too much harm."
has done some serious work.
[This message edited by lauren123 at 6:27 PM, October 17th (Thursday)]
On topic, I wouldn't waste anymore money on tests. False positives aren't all that common. Go see your doctor and have them run a blood test for confirmation. CONGRATS! Babies are a blessing. More than ever take care of yourself. I will pray for you.
Leaning towards leaving, no one deserves this pain.
HE's really excited about all of this, but also being cautious about his excitement because he knows it's early and because he knows I have these mixed feelings about the timing (mainly I'm happy, but it's also surreal). He is kind of cute -- talking to my belly (even though I told him the kid wouldn't even have ears yet) and planning to add an expansion on to the house for more space (we don't even have a room for this baby). He's talking about when we should tell my family and our son, especially.
It's hard for me because I'm really close to my mom and want to tell her but I also want us to share this a little bit on our own because we didn't really do that with our son. I want to tell my mom and friends so I can work through some of my feelings of trepidation about it all and the timing. But at the same time I want to surprise them with some kind of announcement. WHo knows. I do know Mom will probably find out fast because she's been asking me if my period ever started since I told her it wasn't starting whenI thought it should. Honestly? She knows....she just isn't saying she knows. :-)
My youngest DD is a result of HB with my XH. She is almost 15 yrs old and I feel incredibly blessed to have her. She is truly a unique individual with some amazing talents to offer the world. I have always said that the only reason I do not regret taking him back all those years ago is her. I am also glad that I didn't stay with him after she was born, but that is another story.
Also, I was on the pill with all 3 of my kids. The 2 babies I lost I was not on the pill...
seriously, you have so much sadness to deal with-- I don't think it's right that anyone could add to the sadness. Let this be a joy in your life. It will be OK.