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User Topic: Irony courtesy of OW
womaninflux
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Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

During course of A SAWH kept losing his wedding ring. He attributed this to taking it off when he lifted weights. Obviously, I was clueless. At any rate, he is now out of his "fog" and coming clean about a lot of details. He said the reason why he always took off his wedding ring was because his AP thought it was disrespectful for him to wear it while out with her. Once again, confirmation that she is an idiot (and obviously he is too for having an A in the first place).


BS - mid-40's
SAWH - mid 40's
Kids - 2 elementary school aged
Getting tons of therapy and trying to "work it out"

Posts: 864 | Registered: Jun 2013
Snapdragon
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Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, because I always know my "boyfriend" respects me because he removes his wedding ring when we are together.

Irony, indeed.


Divorced - recovered and hoping to help.

"We're not broken, just bent, and we can learn to love again" ~Pink


Posts: 3077 | Registered: May 2004 | From: Midwest
emotionalgirl
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Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry but I just have to comment.....WTF???? It is disrespectful to wear when he was with her.....umm she did know she was dating an already MARRIED man didn't she??


1st D day: Saturday July 20,2013
2nd D day....when the s**t really hit the fan and the truth came out.Saturday August 3,2013
3rd D day: Friday August 16, 2013...NC sent Friday Aug 30 4th D day NOV 11
Me: BS
Him: WH
Married 25 years....finally in R

Posts: 370 | Registered: Aug 2013
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

*sputtering* The stupidity of (some) AP's just leave me speechless!

[This message edited by SisterMilkshake at 4:56 PM, October 16th (Wednesday)]


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9539 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
womaninflux
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Default  Posted: 7:35 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks you guys! You always know just the right things to say. You put into words (and visuals) my thoughts exactly. I may have used a few more expletives, however.

And yes...AP did know from the beginning my H was married. And she used to make fun of him for being a "married guy who lives in the suburbs." This one was also good. "Honey, what does that say about you?" I so want to say this to her but I am not going to lower myself. However, IF I ever run into her while out with my friends, they have promised that they will spill a sticky ice cold drink on her.

[This message edited by womaninflux at 7:38 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)]


BS - mid-40's
SAWH - mid 40's
Kids - 2 elementary school aged
Getting tons of therapy and trying to "work it out"

Posts: 864 | Registered: Jun 2013
TheClimb
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Default  Posted: 7:46 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, it was disrespectful of him to wear his wedding band while with her, but not at all disrespectful of her to sleep with your husband! Why are we the only ones who see the irony in this? Not only are the whores stupid, but what is wrong with our spouses? I would have spit out my soda when I heard that one! Do they not consider even just for a second that this is one crazy bitch? How did they make it home at night without getting lost or run over?

That "fog" must be some awesome shit is all have to say!


"That which can be destroyed by the truth should be" P.C. Hodgell

Posts: 458 | Registered: Oct 2009 | From: Southern Maryland
TheClimb
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Default  Posted: 7:46 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry, double post.

[This message edited by TheClimb at 7:47 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)]


"That which can be destroyed by the truth should be" P.C. Hodgell

Posts: 458 | Registered: Oct 2009 | From: Southern Maryland
Marathonwaseasy
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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ap was not happy that me and fwh still had sex. Pleased he told her though as it will have tortured her.
Of course he will have minimised it but still.


Me BS, 41
Him WS, 45
EA and PA (PA for 11 months)
DDay 13/9/13
3 children - 15,12,3
WS has bipolar, no excuse...

"We're not broken, just bent. We can learn to love again."


Posts: 421 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Ireland
whatnow8
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Default  Posted: 11:05 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How did they make it home at night without getting lost or run over?
That "fog" must be some awesome shit is all have to say!


wtf?? How insane does your life have to get that you want to polygraph your freaking HUSBAND. ~ OldCow18

It's hard to make a decision when you're too tired to hold on and too in love to let go. ~ unknown


Posts: 178 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: midwest
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 3:42 AM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And schmoozing it up with ow wasn't disrespectful to you? Crazy isn't it? I would have found it difficult not to put my foot in the family jewels over that remark.


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 4932 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
MrsDoubtfire
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Default  Posted: 3:52 AM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FWH actually threw his ring back at me during an "it's over and I'm never coming back to you!" fight!

I see now how clever that was. Pity though that OW then believed him when he said he'd left me because "he must have- he no longer wore his wedding ring right?!!"

She thought it was disrespectful that FWH still went to church during our false R!!

Apparently her AND her mother thought that made him a hypocrite!

Err POT? KETTLE? Surely


BS(Me) FWH(Him) DDay 05.09
A went underground. True R 02.10
I won't let another woman reap the benefit of enjoying the man my H has now becomeć

Posts: 1571 | Registered: Jul 2009
Bikingguy
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Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well this is irony from WW, but maybe still relavent. WW says in the 15 year super long LTA they never said the word "love" - why because that would have crossed a line!

How F ed up is that?


Me: BH, 44
Her: WW, 43
D day. January 12, 2013

Posts: 670 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Socal
Crushed1
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Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's not only the *irony* but the insanity of it all is just incomprehensible.

Bikingguy - that blows my mind


~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
~STRENGTH~PEACE~HOPE~FAITH

Posts: 9694 | Registered: Feb 2005 | From: Texas
hopingforhappy
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Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My FWH took off his wedding ring when he was with OW--not sure if was because she wanted him to or because he did (he told me he did it out of respect for me??? but not sure I believe that, because it sounds so stupid). ETA--I would have preferred that he show respect for me by honoring our M vows and not having sex with other women.

OW was also upset when she found out that FWH and I were still intimate. He told her about a year before that we didn't sleep together anymore, to get her off his back because she kept asking him about it and acting all jealous.

It is all so ridiculous. Who are these people and how do their brains work? Clearly, not in a normal way. I will never understand it.

[This message edited by hopingforhappy at 1:06 PM, October 16th (Wednesday)]


Me--BW (56)
Him--FWH (53)--5yr. LTA--OW probably BPD
Married 20 years
DS-18, DD-15
Reconciling--but boy is it hard!

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BeyondBreaking
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Default  Posted: 4:20 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG, can you even BELIEVE men now-a-days?

He had the nerve to wear his wedding ring while he used me to cheat on his wife! RUDE!


I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.

At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.

"Love means never having to say you're sorry."


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crestfallen
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Default  Posted: 4:30 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

yea, mine took his off too...but I think he didn't want anyone to actually think he was married to Mr. Ed....


BS-me-57
WH-57
Married 32 years
OW-Mr. Ed ish! Seriously!
DDAY- 2/21/09
TT until 1/10/10
Working on R and doing well!!

Posts: 179 | Registered: Mar 2010
womaninflux
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Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

To clarify crazy OW remark: OW thought it was disrespectful TO HER that my H would wear his ring when out with her...she did not want to be seen in public with a married man. She's full of integrity, that one. LOL.


BS - mid-40's
SAWH - mid 40's
Kids - 2 elementary school aged
Getting tons of therapy and trying to "work it out"

Posts: 864 | Registered: Jun 2013
Offhispedestal
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Default  Posted: 4:50 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Womaninflux: AP may have told your H that she felt disrespected if he wore his wedding ring while being with her. Or he just may have been the one to feel "uncomfortable" wearing his ring.

It's not about disrespect for them. It's
An obvious reminder that what they are doing is WRONG. In my case I know my H took his ring off while being with her. Because he told her our marriage was done, he had no feelings for me...
I'm sorry for getting graphic but I can imagine my H unzipping his pants and holding his..... While she gives oral. Just imagine her seeing his ring while she does this? Disrespect? Nope!! Just an obvious symbol that he is not single and that she is a whore! If he's not wearing a ring then her delusional mind feels that he is her boyfriend not her married lover.
The more I see the word disrespect the more it pisses me off for you!
It's how people in A's can face themselves in the mirror


ME-44
WH-45
Married 24


2Beautiful daughters
DD 6/26/10 (he broke down & confessed)
DD#2 3/14/11 H in OW's car
TT 7/1/11 (NC broken, through emails)

In R


Posts: 632 | Registered: Jun 2011
pewpewpew
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Default  Posted: 4:56 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh.
Again, FTW!
Fuck the whores.
Are you kidding me?!?!
These whores now a days - they didn't want their MARRIED bf's to wear their wedding bands...
It makes me sick.


ME: 30
WH: 35

Fool me once - Shame on you. Fool me twice - pack your shit and get out.


Posts: 310 | Registered: Jan 2013
crestfallen
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Default  Posted: 6:22 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The nerve of these OW...they have such a sense of entitlement, don't they.

What freakin baffles me is, our Hs are doing what they ask....they don't see any of these things until afterwards when the consequences come back to haunt them...then they have the nerve to say, " You know what, when you say that, you are making ME feel bad." Like WTF?

But you know, they ARE idiots! They don't think they will get caught, then they think they don't have to tell the truth, then they think they can walk away from the A with a little slap on the wrist because they were just having a little fun....OMG! STUPID STUPID STUPID


BS-me-57
WH-57
Married 32 years
OW-Mr. Ed ish! Seriously!
DDAY- 2/21/09
TT until 1/10/10
Working on R and doing well!!

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