Her taking a trip was my idea but I thought it would be to see her brother. She has a cousin in Orlando so she's still seeing family. The cousin has had a rough couple of years and could probably use the comfort of family as well.
I told her last night that I thought her plan was to see her brother and was wondering why she wouldn't have invited me to Orlando. Didn't even get an answer.
When we discussed the trip I said she'd have to come up with a plan that will make me feel comfortable with the trip. I was honest and told her it'd be a huge trigger for me and that she'd have to put herself in my shoes to figure out how to make me feel comfortable before she leaves, while she's there, and so on. It's not supposed to be just get on a plane and go. Fortunately, the race she wants to do isn't until next year. I wouldn't be at all surprised when she tells me she found a reason to go earlier. That's just her being herself.
I see the trip as a good thing. It will force her to think and empathize, two things she has difficulty with. It forces me to stay balanced between logic and emotion, or else I get weird. It was my suggestion as a way to heal myself I guess.