I confronted him and now hes telling me that she sent those and pics of her kids and her dogs. I ask him if he ever sent pic messages of MY kids to her and he said no but I would bet he did but he isn't saying if he did.
Then I start telling him I see that he did in fact ignore my call waiting while talking to her or answer the call waiting from her when he was talking to me. He said he always ditched her to talk to me and I cant really tell if he did ignore me or not but I figured he already "white lied" about the pics so lets see if he fesses up to that. He says "I don't know if I did but I don't think I did". To me that says yes which means if he did and only fessed up now bc of evidence then he lied about that too.
I know these aren't like huge lies or anything but they are in this situation.
I asked him questions and he threatened that we were done, he was going to pack up and go. I said that's fine, I don't want you here if you cant be honest. Answer the questions HONESTLY or go. Now he has answers, guess you thought I was playin huh? NOPE!!!
I'm pretty pissed off that he lied about something like that but hell he did sneak around and fuck a whore he didn't know in a dirty roach motel (like the kind in crackville nasty) while he was married and his wife was taking care of his kids. So Im not really that surprised, just hurt
Habitual liars have a hard time separating fact from fiction, and I am sure they begin to believe their own lies.
Have you read " when your lover is a liar"? That book was wonderful, and eye opening for me.
I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.
There was constantly changing details. First it was that they got together for lunch once a month. Then it turned into every week. Then it turned into nearly everyday. Then he told me they stopped when they hadn't. He told me that he didn't text her anymore- still did. He said that he never let her into our home- that was a lie. Every time I did digging, I found evidence that contradicted something he said. Instead of telling the truth, he only shared what physical evidence MADE him share. Even after we broke up, he still wouldn't admit to a lot of what he did. I will probably never know the honest truth.
I am sorry he is doing this.
At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.
"Love means never having to say you're sorry."
Im getting fed up with this shit!
Oh and the one where he looked me in the eye and angrily denied that he had another SIM he was switching in and out of his phone (after I'd caught him out with a dummy profile on "iwantcasual" and he'd given my alias a different number). Kinda gave the game away when he accidentally responded to me (wifey) by text on the wrong SIM - doh! I know it's tragic, but I nearly wet myself laughing over it
Part of NPD is thinking you're wayyyyy smarter than everyone else - sorry NPD people, but you're just mere humans like the rest of us...
You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think (A A Milne)