We hit our 2 year mark on the 6th. Things are easier now because I've forgotten some of the smaller A things that use to bother me day to day. I don't feel the need to check up on him the way I did before. I don't depend on him the way I use to, I know I can be happy on my own, I'm stronger and I can laugh now...a real laugh.
The downside is that I don't feel like I NEED him anymore. It's too easy to bring up divorce, and to mean it (which we never talked about before the affair). There are some details of the affair that I haven't been given an acceptable answer to...now it's to the point where he feels like I should be done asking but I feel stuck.
Year 2 feels very stale but I've gotten back to being me and so I know I'm going to be OK no matter how this turns out!