I never had the courage to ask but I think something is wrong with my thinking so any advice would be great!
How do you have endurance to be a parent? I looked at that woman and she wasn't worried. I know with one child I keep an eye out etc.
Is it that I have motherhood wrong- I worry there isn't the right activity and I get tired if I am around small children all day. I see these parents who don't seem they are into in their words their kids but can do it everyday and do it well.
I worry a lot that I am just a boring parent. That I don't have anything interesting to offer.
Thank you for listening.
As for your parenting, I was told many years ago by my wise old Grandmother that if you are questioning if you are parenting right, then you are! you care enough to worry about being a good parent..
Believe me my kids are grown ( for the most part; (21(next week), 19 & 16 ( next month) ) & even now there are days I think I did/do a horrible job as a parent.. The shoulda woulda couldas hit..but then I look at my 21YO who has NEVER did drugs or drank (& doesn't want to) I look at my 19YO who goes to college & works until 10pm most every night (he in work study at school so to him it isn't work as he's doing what he loves) & my 16YO who will confide many things in me that most teen girls wouldn't.. & I know I've done a pretty good job.. not sure if it's because of me or in spite of me..
if you are questioning if you are parenting right, then you are! you care enough to worry about being a good parent..
and I agree, you probably caught her on a good day. see her tomorrow, he kids could be running wild with her screaming.
We all make mistakes my goal is to not screw them up more than my parents did me.
[This message edited by tushnurse at 10:22 AM, October 12th (Saturday)]
Sure wasn't boring
As soon as you have more than one, you realize how little control you actually have, so you just let go. For example, I only pay attention to the child who is bleeding. As a result, I am much more relaxed with them. Plus, my autistic 10-year-old throws huge tantrums every now and then in public and I always expect that someone will call the police on me. But, I will not keep him hidden - how would he learn to behave at the store if not at the store?
My attitude is... Any day the police isn't called on me is a good day.
No one is perfect and we all make mistakes parenting. Add to that each child is different and where The Look might work with one child, the other might laugh it off. You have to find what works.
DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs
I edit often for clarity.
Thanks to all the SI support!