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User Topic: i went pyscho at the supermarket
summerain
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Default  Posted: 12:23 AM, October 12th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Okay so this is NOT main ow, just the other one.

I saw her at the supermarket (when I say where I live is horrible in terms of triggers I mean it). I found out about her first, she was my first dday.

I actually don't mind this girl. I think she's very troubled and has self validation issues. She's never been my friend or anything like that, I met her once. She had feelings for WH and as I caught the fb messages on DDAy, I knew it had been over for several months and that he did not/ never had any feelings and found her annoying (and never actually did anything).

But there was this message about tea, talking about how the LOVVVVE tea. I never knew this about WH, he always drank coffee. This in a way hurt me more than any other aspect of him trying to get in her pants.

Hence this is what happened next, I had a can of coke and I put it on the shelf next to the tea and 'accidentally' knocked it over this AMAZING tea.
(It's not even good, english grey tea)

Then I felt really embarrassed and brought the tea. Ruined tea. The workers said "oh no, Lauren it's okay it was an accident!"

But it wasn't

ETA: I also had cleaned the whole of the shelf before they noticed and made sure that it was okay before I left.

Also when I went home I dumped a whole bottle of coke on the actual tea itself whilst cackling thinking I was such a rebel

then I threw out the tea whilst laughing and symbolically telling myself that I "showed them"

(also I brought WH liquorice tea) way better I'm sure than that crappy fucking English fucking breakfast tea. Weak as piss

The end


eta: sorry if you like English breakfast tea

[This message edited by lauren123 at 12:31 AM, October 12th (Saturday)]


OW1 inadvertently let me know WH loves English breakfast tea. Never ever saw him drink it. And I never will.

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hopefulhubby00
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Default  Posted: 1:22 AM, October 12th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not that bad of a reaction. I hope you can heal.

Also; appreciated the TL:DR at the bottom.


Me : WH, possible SA - 30
Her: pregnant BW 29
DDAY: 1 September 2013
One Daughter (20 Mos), One more almost here.

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summerain
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Default  Posted: 3:11 AM, October 12th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Haha, yeah it's good to vent sometimes!


OW1 inadvertently let me know WH loves English breakfast tea. Never ever saw him drink it. And I never will.

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Gottagetthrough
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Default  Posted: 9:22 AM, October 12th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

awww... sounds like you did a good job (didn't engage ow & took your aggression out on tea other than a living thing )


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Gottagetthrough
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Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, October 12th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I totally get the tea thing--- wh is sharing something with this person he dint share w you...

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suckstobeme
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Default  Posted: 11:08 AM, October 12th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow. You're a much better person with a lot more self control than me if that is your version of going psycho.

You did well and obviously have lots of class.


BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 2:33 PM, October 12th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((lauren)))) That is the most restrained and responsible psycho episode I've ever read.

So sorry you were triggered, honey.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 3:33 PM, October 12th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was kind of relieved to read your subject line--thinking, "Oh, good. I'm not the only one."

I actually did lose it--at Costco, before d-day. I knew. I knew but I didn't know WHAT I knew...I just knew.

And I melted down one afternoon at Costco.

I now know that Mr. Personality-Disorder was passive-aggressively installing buttons and then pushing them---so that he would have "reason" to embark on his last affair. (You know, because I was SO MEAN.)

He was very good at that.

I look back and am so sad for that woman...walking through Costco crying and having NO idea what the hell was wrong with her.

(Fortunately, I figured out what was wrong with me and got rid of him. But I still cringe as I walk into Costco.)

You are MUCH more civilized than I.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

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LeopoldB
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Default  Posted: 4:15 PM, October 12th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's awesome.

I feel guilty just squeezing the produce.


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summerain
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Default  Posted: 10:04 PM, October 12th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Haha,
It's funny in some ways this girl triggers me a lot more than the main ow.

I also feel bad for her, she's no-longer doing as much stuff at uni as she did before, which in this career generally means you're fucked.

The main ow moved away after going bunny boiler for a bit. In a way I feel a bit bad for her... Just a little not much

Wh in contrast has gone from strength to strength. But it's come at a price for those two.

Solus, right after dday, I had to wear sunglasses permanently when I was out. I would just cry getting a coffee or buying groceries. Total meltdown

I wore them so much that one of wh friends (the only one who knew about the DV) took me aside demanded me to take them off. He thought I had a black eye. All he saw was swollen eyes haha


OW1 inadvertently let me know WH loves English breakfast tea. Never ever saw him drink it. And I never will.

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Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 3:18 AM, October 13th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It may be just tea, but I totally understand, the tea was something they shared in convo and its something you never knew about him. Those are the kinds of things that can cause an episode...not knowing and ow knowing instead of you..I get it 100%


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

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