At this point my children will not have any contact with OC. That is too much to ask of myself and them at this point. He accepts what has happened and said that he will take responsibility for the OC. All I know is I don't like H or OW right now. I have to all the time and find ways to deal with all these issues in a constructive way. I will be going back to doctors for meds to help me cope as this is just more than I think I can handle on my own.
I think that is great and you are going really well. It took me a long time to like wh, it's weird he became my best friend again but i didn't like him
Gently, and in no way am I claiming you are lying but do you have any sort of proof (even the tiniest) that it was like that?
even that he came home very drunk?
Stranger stories have happened. I do believe it may have taken him awhile to recognise what truly had happened, so if he was truly raped I don't think you can blame him for that, a lot of people who have been subjected to it take a really long time. Especially when alcohol is involved.
I also say that from personal experience. I was a lot younger than your H but my bf at that time did that and I was truly intoxicated so much that I remember how it started but then blacked out halfway through. Took me five months to figure it out. (so I did a lot of research after )