I was just wondering if this is typical of 1st Antiversary behavior, and what I can do to help. I'm already reminding her that, unlike last time, this year she's not facing this alone. I'm here, IC is here for her, and SI is here for her.
Is there anything else I can and should be doing, above and beyond what I'm already doing?
Of course I don't know what I'm talking about 1/2 the time, I think I'm losing my mind, but that's what I would want my WH to do. Good luck! Love her man! Just love her.!
No choice but to divorce
Last year we really focused on making new memories. We made new plans for Ds's bday.
We did nothing for Halloween except taking the kidlets out trick or treating. Halloween is a big trigger. We had a couple parties, OM was at the last one.
We did something totally different for Thanksgiving, and Black friday (Dday).
We worked really hard on Our "Fall Plan". It helped a ton!
This year we are taking back some of the triggers.
We went back to our old tradition for ds's bday.
We're trying the Halloween party again.
We're talking a lot, communicating about everything.
"Your secrets keep you sick"
I was just wondering if this is typical of 1st Antiversary behavior, and what I can do to help. I'm already reminding her that, unlike last time, this year she's not facing this alone
Whatever you do, at least acknowledge it. My fWW didn't even acknowledge the day (or season) and it hurt like hell.
Have something planned in case she does have plans. Make it special and take her mind off of it.
Show her that you are sorry and care so much for her. DON'T MAKE HER ASK YOU FOR ATTENTION OR PLANS. Be proactive about this.
I can tell you it's a very tough time for the BS and it's soooo much worse if the WS ignores it.