Thank you so much, everyone. He knows how to hide email accounts on his phone, so it's not like I can access any of his technology.
That being said, now that I know for sure who I am dealing with, I'm not feeling the need to check him constantly. That will make him relax a little, too, and that's how I found out it had gone underground in the first place. Plus, I have receipts and CC statements I can check right here while I'm still home.
One more ANYTHING and I am gone. I've done so much for him and his (our) son -- and his son's mother STILL treats me terribly even though I bend over backward for her, too. The thought of being DONE with all of it actually appeals to me. I think he knows that.
If there is a next time, I will know EXACTLY what I need to do, because I have all of you at SI on my side...something I wish I would known about when this came to light six months ago and I was holed up at a hotel.
You are all wonderful, and I pray for all of us every single day! Thank you!!