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welcome14
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Default  Posted: 7:01 PM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

After I read this, I went back and re-read the original posted topic. I started to read it when it was new, but the tenor of the posts made me shy away. It was very unlike most SI threads and I found it upsetting. I know in a global community like SI there will be differences of opinion, however, as I stated, the tenor of it really bothered me. I have no earth-shattering opinions that will make all clear, I never do, but I will say that I felt like my safe place, the place I come for comfort and peace even after all this time was tainted by the real-world. Not the loving disagreement of family, but divisive factions promoting strife and discord. I know this is poorly worded as most my posts are, and I remember the pain, the confusion, the early, raw days when I had a set-to with KDNY. I still don't know what I posted in my agony that made her believe I was a wandering spouse or OW, but I said something to carry that label and cant post in JFO. I said my stupid bitto her, got slapped down, realized I was wrong for responding the way I did, and sucked it up because on an internal level I realized what SI could mean to me, and my salvation. I will forever be thankful to this site and the mods, as I have said before, you literally saved my life. I remember sitting with a handful of pills and a large glass of vodka just reading, soaking in the tolerance, grace and forgiveness here, and fell asleep before I acted that night. Thanks for giving us a place to see light and hope in this dark world. And the Christmas card exchanges make my daughter's and my Christmas so much more special. I thank you again, and if I ever win the lottery (or can even pay my mortgage-yay unpaid government employee!) I will fund SI forever. Much love,
Terrie


Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.


Posts: 1133 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: clarksville, tn/ Ft Campbell
forgivingnow
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Member # 33549
Default  Posted: 11:23 PM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you DS & MH. I missed the thread being referred to here & won't go looking for it, but wanted to say thank you & I am truly grateful for this site. I don't know anyone IRL who has experienced what I have & have been truly grateful to 'talk to & meet' people who have and receive support from so many & begin to pay it forward and that is because of you.


Me-BS 51
FWH-50
M 30 yrs
Dday 3-19-11, TT 10/2011, Full truth July 2013
Strength comes from within. You can't get it from someone or go somewhere to get it. It is already here, waiting to be used when you need it most. Believe in yourself.
R

Posts: 577 | Registered: Oct 2011
purplejacket4
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Member # 34262
Default  Posted: 12:24 AM, October 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, I saw that thread too. It was a ginormous panty wad party.

I was so incredulous I stopped reading somewhere on page two.

But to recap I want to add my thanks to DS, MH and al the mods and guides for their life changing and sometimes saving work. Thanks, guys!


Me: BS 44
Her: fWS 47 (same sex partner)
Together: 17 now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 1861 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
yewtree
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Default  Posted: 1:37 AM, October 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Because I am not sleeping tonight I went and read the posts related to this... Well some of them. You know we have all lived through this painful time and many have behaved badly on this site and in real life. I don't post in jfo or general often because I'm always late to the post and other, wiser members have already articulated my thoughts.
Right now I just want to say that the reason I am alive today is because of the wisdom of SI. DS, MH, Meta, moo and plain old members amaze me daily. So very grateful for all of you. If I didn't name you, I include you in thought. Yewtree.


Me(BS)45(at the time of D-day)

Divorced 2009, Closing on house Nov 2011 -
No longer waiting for the other "she" to drop.


Posts: 4561 | Registered: Oct 2007
refuz2bavictim
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Default  Posted: 3:42 AM, October 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a great sentiment.

I am very grateful that I have been allowed to find comfort in this "house".


BS:ME DDay: 7/18/09 Last of TT 7/11/10
MOW's EA/PA all were my "friends" but one


Posts: 2360 | Registered: Jan 2010
cantbelieve
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Member # 22028
Default  Posted: 8:31 AM, October 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Truly lifesavers!!! Many thanks over and over again. BTW, are you okay with us bringing in a glass (or bottle) of wine?


Me: BS (57)
Him: WS (58)
LTA 4 years with co-worker
DS(26)
DD(23)
DD(19)
Married 28 years
D-day1 5/08
D-day2 11/08
Status: 6 yrs and wondering if I'll ever be truly happy again

Posts: 1044 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: DFW
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 6:28 PM, October 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great post EW. Well said. I agree with you 100%.

DS and MH have invited us into their homes. Metaphorically and IRL. They are wonderful people and I'm glad to consider them friends.

The comment about Koolaide at the G2Gs? I've never seen Koolaide but the Burbon usually flows pretty freely.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3084 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
inconnu
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Default  Posted: 6:55 PM, October 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've never seen Koolaide but the Burbon usually flows pretty freely.

and let's not forget about the tequila...


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


Posts: 11989 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: TX
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 7:48 AM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks, EW, you are right and I agree.

As someone who posted on said thread, I felt someone needed to step up and defend MH's & DS's home. I am sorry to everyone who may have felt I added to the negativity. That wasn't my intent.

I bowed out as I saw it was pointless as some were determined to continue in that vein. It was really sad and exasperating to see how it went further down in the negativity and was just plain ridiculous.

In fact, when MH stepped in I was panicking. I had this awful feeling that they were going to shut down SI. Who could blame them? Who needs to be treated so poorly and disrespectfully when all they do is give and serve?

I am forever grateful for this site and Every. Single. Person. Here.

(((((SI Community)))))


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 8984 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((SisterMilkshake))))) I always love reading your comments along with all of our other friends here...

Peace and love to all.


Posts: 2474 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: With my dad...
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((ExitWounds))) Right back atcha!


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 8984 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
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