Im married woman for 6yrs with 2 kids (5 and 3). Im 31, BH is 34.
Had an affair for 7 months. Caught twice with the same man.
Affair is married for 6 yrs. Fed up with his self centered and nagger wife.
Met him in a online game. We exchange problems with W and H. Started as friends and end up as lovers.
I can say that my husband is good provider, good father and head of the family but as a husband, i think its normal with W to look or expect to ur husband to be sweet or intimate. not like when wer engage, he is so expressive in his feelings. Giving much time and made me feel how important i am.
After a years of marriage, he changed. Most of his time focused on our future that cause him to be more concentrated with his career.
I honestly dont look or search to someone but when i met my A, he made me feel the thing that missing from me and my H.
I get to much indulge with him until we decided to meet and have the relationship to keep.
After few months, he decided to leave as he said i was overprotective.it affects me alot and my H thought that the reason y i cried everyday is because of him. This pushed me to tell him that i have an affair.
My H gave me a chance to get over with my A. The things i require, he change but few weeks later he goes back from his own world.
Few months later, my A comes back, promising me that he will never leave me whatever it takes as he doesnt want to fool himself and wanted to face the reality that he really loves me. He just cant let go of his wife as he doesnt want to be the reason why their marriage never lasts. He said that he was just waiting for the right time to find reasons to blame his wife and he will then drop the news that he wanted to get separated. He said that it wouldnt take time as he was always ending up with a big fight and his wife used to asked for separation.
On 21sep13, i was caught by H through A sms. H took my phone and found H smd. He even read my emails where I and A conversation were still there. He found out that A and I make love which i thought the main reason to pushed my H to file an annulment.
A still there but never asked me to wait for him. He keeps on telling me that whatever moves i take or decision, always take in consideration my family. My A wanted my family back if someone will asked him to step back, he'll do it but people cannot asked him to leave me.
I even asked him for the sake of everyone's silence, we need to end up our relationship.
He just replied me, i can ask anything i want but not leaving me.
Currently, he's still existing... Trying to motivate me to go back to my H.
My problem is, H doesnt want me anymore.as mentioned, he is filing an annulment so that i can live freely.
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About AP's wife, as how i knew her from our friends stories,,, she never become submissive to AP. AP is the one who's cleaning the house, washing the dishes, cook their food... Once, when he was asked to leave their house by his wife,, friends of ours saw his wife with a guy. That time, AP and I were friends. While listening to our friend's story, the guy who's with his wife is wife's ex-bf where became an issue to the both of them. Wife used to spend time talking with this guy than AP, and everytime he's asking about the guy, wife used to tell him that its not AP's business. AP even read a message from the guy wanting his wife to meet. Both of them were having an affair... Its just that both of them were waiting to be caught.
We dont live in US. We got married in Philippines and annulment in our country will take years and cost alot of money if he really wanted to do it.
Currently, though AP is still around, he is least to my priority.
I know that he is still existing but im trying to avoid him.
AP knew that if i managed to fixed my marriage, he will be totally out of the picture but AP still insisting that whatever i say he will still stay. Everytime that ill be needing him, he will always be there.
Now, that i knew my H plan,,, i do not know what to do and where to start. I tried talking to him but he's avoiding me. He said that we do not have anything to talk. He is not even open for marriage counseling as he said it is too late as he gave me lots of chance to change but he guess that i will never be change as it is already my habit.
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AP was really sicked, and he is under medication for 1 month and will see the doctor again after a month...
AP's wife never been with him when he was in ICU. She just came to bring his clothes and left. AP confined in the hospital for 2 days and wife seen once when she dropped his clothes. Never go with his follow up check ups.
I know coz he showed me every medical results he had after his check ups or ff check ups.
I know you might thinking that im telling you this because i love him or protecting him,,, No... I was just telling you whats happening and its not a lie.
AP never been with the other girls during our cool offs... Before we ended as lovers, we become friends. I know how AP moves. Like me, before 6years of marriage, we are both faithful with our spouses. First time to betrayed spouses .
I am willing to give up AP for the sake of my family.
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It is a copied and paste from pm conversation. Apologies if the story was divided into 3.