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User Topic: 10 months in....please read
strongerdaybyday
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Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, October 7th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am 3 mos post d-day. I hope, in a few months, to be able to post something as wonderful and show someone there is life and love after d-day.


Me-BW Him - WH
Married 6 years, together 13+ years
D-Day Summer 2013
children-3
If it is what it is then what is it?

**If I edit I'm correcting a typo!**


Posts: 380 | Registered: Aug 2013
AML04
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Member # 39682
Default  Posted: 8:56 PM, October 7th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just want to thank you for posting this. I am struggling with the anger right now and seeing something so positive lifted my heart.


Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
T-13 M-9
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13.
Hopeful for R

Posts: 840 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
cinnamongurl
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Member # 37879
Default  Posted: 11:02 PM, October 7th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for sharing, LA. I've been following your story and your progress from the beginning.

Talking to you last winter gave me so much insight into what BSO was feeling and going through! This insight was invaluable to learning to be truly empathetic and patient!

I'm always pleased to hear that despite the pain and struggles, you remain positive and hopeful!


Me: 36 fWGF He: 35 BBF and my heart
Together 18 yrs. "You were sick, but now you're well again, and there's work to do."
Kurt Vonnegut



Posts: 506 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: home with my heart.
LA44
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Member # 38384
Default  Posted: 7:56 AM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I need to comment (again). I woke up this morning and saw...22 posts! Wow! Sadly, I find that positive posts don't get as much attention so I am thrilled by you taking the time to read and comment and I feel happy that I have helped you in that moment.

CinnGurl! Yes! It was good talking to you too back then. You were also helpful to me and me and H discussed some things based on what you wrote.

To those who are not sure, new, later in the R process or relatively at the same time as us, keep moving forward, get out of bed everyday, go for a walk, eat well but enjoy the treats, read, read, read and talk. Talk to your spouse. Tell him/her what you need or when you are hurt. Someone once wrote on here, "you can't push a boulder up a hill alone."

Take good care of you.


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2218 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
spinning73
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Default  Posted: 8:11 AM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the positive message. Most days I think things are going well...BUT, I am heading into my first A season and am feeling kind of shaky. This definitely helps give me hope.


me-BS 40
WH-40
Together 23 years, married 17 years
DDs-11 and 8, DS 7
4 month EA/PA ended by WH 2 months before
DD-4/14/13
Hoping this recovery is real...

Posts: 42 | Registered: Jun 2013
knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for this encouraging post LA. It helps to see some of the weight lifting for some BS on here. Brings hope...


FWW 40's
D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

Posts: 1406 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
UKlady
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Default  Posted: 11:36 AM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LA - you were the first responder to my very first post in SI and I guess that's something I'll always remember! I am in fact only 1 month behind you time wise and I feel that I'm progressing very well on the whole.

Yes it's still pretty shit at times, like low down really bad, but we are going to get there I know it.

I sometimes stay away from SI when I'm feeling down because it can trigger me and make me feel worse. However, I'm also aware of what help it has been and when I'm on a rise back up (which I am now after a bleak, dark week or so) I want to visit and give back to people who have helped me here.

I am inspired by your story, grateful that you remain here to give guidance and support and happy that you are where you are in your journey


Me: BW 45
Him: WH 48
Married: 6 years, together 9 years
D-day: 3 January 2013 - he confessed.
A: June-Dec 2012
No children.

Posts: 153 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: UK
LA44
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Member # 38384
Default  Posted: 1:57 PM, October 8th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you so much knightsbff, spinning73 (this is my A season too) and UKLady. Yes! I remember that I was your first response!

Sometimes I stay away from SI for 5-12 days - just to clear my head a bit. It helps but being on it also brings me a lot of good feelings when my words have touched others. So...win-win either way.

I do tend to stay away from vengeful posters. No judgment....just had enough thoughts in my head...didn't need to feed it and watch it grow KWIM?

Good luck to all of you.
LA


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2218 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
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