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User Topic: I choose to take charge of my happiness...
Fianna
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Default  Posted: 3:50 AM, October 5th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Today I drove to my IC thinking, I have hope, I was not seeing a future because I was not piecing it with a healthy WH I am looking at it from the wrong angle.i thought I can do this! We are going to be ok!!

Right before I walk into the IC session, I check my emails one more time, and what do you think the odds are that I get an email from the OW copying me the exchange they have had for the last couple of days colluding for a meeting. Extremely sexual emails of what they are going to do to each other Monday.

Oh did I mention Monday is our 30th year anniversary????

I discussed it with my MC and we decided we would wait for us to return from the international trip we have planned. Cannot dump all this on a son we have not seen I two years... I am strong enough to handle the "appearance" part...

He doesn't realize that the OW has fwd me all their emails because she is going to "do the dirty work and fight for them"

She sent me an email giving me access to their private email so it is "on me" what I find out...

Oh did I mention the password she chose is "homewrecker13"???

I am copying all the emails so when we return I can give it to a divorce attorney. The strangest part if all this is that I have lived in fear of this day and yet, now that has arrived is liberating...

I rose to my finest hour and send a very what I think impressive response to the OW and told her that her actions are not causing anything, I am simply choosing to take charge of my life and happiness and protect my children...

She has something coming if she thinks my WH will ever forgive her for having told me everything...

He is convinced he can have his cake an eat it too...
Oh well... It is what it is right???


Fianna
"Amidst the confusion of the times, the conflicts of conscience, and the turmoil of daily living, an abiding faith becomes an anchor to our lives."
Thomas S. Monson

Posts: 7 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: SouthCali
shiloe
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Default  Posted: 9:19 AM, October 5th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Extremely sexual emails of what they are going to do to each other Monday.

Oh did I mention Monday is our 30th year anniversary????

Gotta love this homewrecker, at least she is not a accomplice in his gaslighting, lying and deceiving of you. Wish more OW were like her and let the BS in on what their spouse is really doing. No more wondering. Now he is the one being deceived by her

[This message edited by shiloe at 9:20 AM, October 5th (Saturday)]


But remember, good love is hard to find . . -Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
BS - 54
Cheater -54
Married 26 yrs
DD - 21 DD -19 DS-17
A#1 2000 with married ho-worker/neighbor ow#1
A#2 2007-? OW#2 LTA with married ho-worker. Kicked him out, he filed

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dmari
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Default  Posted: 11:26 AM, October 5th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Beautiful post Fianna! You have incredible strength and your attitude is inspiring. I'm amazed how you are able to wait until you two return from your trip. Awesome! Continue to document everything and then go for it! My favorite quotes in your post: "The strangest part if all this is that I have lived in fear of this day and yet, now that has arrived is liberating..." and "I am simply choosing to take charge of my life and happiness and protect my children..."

P.S. The OW sounds like a pot full of crazy


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
I FINALLY GOT A COURT DATE: 5/29/14!!

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ChoosingHope
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Default  Posted: 12:44 PM, October 5th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My favorite quotes in your post: "The strangest part if all this is that I have lived in fear of this day and yet, now that has arrived is liberating..

This was so true for me, too.

I don't know anything about California law, but those emails will come in handy one way or another - I bet your lawyer will be thrilled to have them!



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travels
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Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, October 5th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Keep documenting.

Do you think the OW is going to tell your husband she told you?

Sending you hugs and strength for your trip.


When one door closes, another door opens. It's the journey through the hallway that sucks.

Rest In Peace Bo the Beagle 1996-2011


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badd
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Default  Posted: 6:00 PM, October 5th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

make sure those emails are in a safe place while you are gone, better yet, take them to a lawyer and let them do the paperwork while you are gone, so you can return with that one more duck in a row. Just saying

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