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User Topic: Here we go again
whiteflower99
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Default  Posted: 4:30 PM, October 4th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

haven't posted here in a loooong time; i honestly didn't feel like there was a need.
i posted a few days ago in D&S.
Basically, signs were there, i ignored them. DDay # > any rational number was last Friday.
Now we are D
I just want to feel heard.


What are you pretending not to know?

me FBS
him idiotic sex addicted, hormone addled, porn watching, post pubescent male with a walking hard on for anything without a penis
4 kids 15 13 12 8
Earned my *F* the hard way; no longer defining mysel


Posts: 1754 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Greensboro, NC
HurtsButImOK
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Member # 38865
Default  Posted: 4:50 PM, October 4th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

you have been heard and (((HUGS))) for the pain you are going through.

There are awesome people in D/S (not me ), still relatively new and getting to grips with the shitiness of it all. You are not alone.


Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou


Posts: 756 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
RockyMtn
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Default  Posted: 4:55 PM, October 4th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hear you. The simplicity of your post, especially this...

DDay # > any rational number

...shows a quiet acceptance and strength that will grow.

Hugs.


Me, BS, 30s
Him, WS, 30s, Steppenwolf
Kids: Yep
D-Day 1: September 2011, 6 week EA
D-Day 2: January 2013, discovered EA was a PA; there was another PA in 2010. All TT.
Goal = serenity.

Posts: 667 | Registered: Oct 2012
pewpewpew
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Member # 38116
Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, October 4th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hugs. You will get through this.
Sending thoughts, and strength.


ME: 30
WH: 35

Fool me once - Shame on you. Fool me twice - pack your shit and get out.


Posts: 310 | Registered: Jan 2013
whiteflower99
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Member # 13937
Default  Posted: 5:40 PM, October 4th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thanks everybody for the support. I guess there really isn't that much to say. I could yell, or scream, or :throw a hissy fit, but why bother?
It won't change the fact that the man I married turned out to be the biggest fraud on the planet. Apparently I married an idea, one I believed in with every fiber of my being, but ultimately one that wasn't real. Apparently I married someone who didn't exist, who never existed.I know that I will be ok. I know that although it will take time, I'm going to make it.
what I don't understand is why it took me 6 damned years to figure this out. When I think back to all the time, all the energy I wasted trying to reconcile...
I am done.
I just want the life i thought I had to be real, so I am going to create it my damn self.


What are you pretending not to know?

me FBS
him idiotic sex addicted, hormone addled, porn watching, post pubescent male with a walking hard on for anything without a penis
4 kids 15 13 12 8
Earned my *F* the hard way; no longer defining mysel


Posts: 1754 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Greensboro, NC
neverdidithink
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Member # 40568
Default  Posted: 6:36 PM, October 4th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just want the life i thought I had to be real, so I am going to create it my damn self.

You go, girl! I know you're not feeling strong right now, but it's clear you've got more strength than you realize.

Hugs and Godspeed on your journey to a great new life.


Me: BW 52
Him: WH 55
Married 8 years
4 20-something his and hers kids

Trying to understand the behavior of some people is like trying to smell the color 9


Posts: 341 | Registered: Sep 2013
TarnishedSilver
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Member # 37166
Default  Posted: 6:52 PM, October 4th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stay strong. I hear you and send you strength!


Me-BS (47)
Him-WH (48)
Married 26 years together 31
2 teenagers
Dday #1- 2/20/2011
Dday #2- 1/08/2012

Healing myself is now my top priority.


Posts: 156 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: USA
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