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User Topic: taking time for me, how exhausting
suposd2btheonly1
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Default  Posted: 1:58 PM, October 4th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Its been almost 2 months since Dday. I just realized that its been about that long since I have blow dried and straightened my hair and put on makeup. I didn't realize its been that long since I actually cared to do those things. I have the thought and want to in my head but the energy isn't there.

I guess I will drag myself into the bathroom and get 'dolled up' for work. If anything I'm sure it will make me feel better, still exhausted, but a little more like 'me' again.


Me: BW 31
Him: WH 30
OW: 22yo whore who is still planning her wedding
Married 3yrs, together 5
4 kids, all boys 14, 11, 4 and 8mos...I hope like hell they don't hurt someone the way he hurt their mama
Dday: August 9, 2013
S, until his head

Posts: 206 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
TrulySad
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Default  Posted: 2:57 PM, October 4th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ohhh, I'm so sorry . I know how this feels.

I'm the one who was always showered, dressed, make up and hair done, and ready to face to world by 6am. Now, there are days where I skip all of it. The highlight of my day is the coffee in the morning, and bed at night.

I know we have the power to take this part of us back, I just wish I had the energy to find it.

You know what would be great... a thread here, where we could come back every day, for the motivation, and kick in the a$$ we need, to get ourselves moving. One where we didn't discuss the A's, but instead we supported each other to get up and start living again.


Me: Sad, but I will survive

True Love: What I have for my beautiful children.


Posts: 455 | Registered: Jun 2013
suposd2btheonly1
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Default  Posted: 3:03 PM, October 4th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That would be awesome! What a great idea!

I got myself all ready for work and I realized how long my hair is. He loved my hair long and sadly this is something I'm now thinking of changing. He also loves it when my hair is red, I'm a natural brunette, I have come to hate my red hair. Looks like a cut and color is in my near future


Me: BW 31
Him: WH 30
OW: 22yo whore who is still planning her wedding
Married 3yrs, together 5
4 kids, all boys 14, 11, 4 and 8mos...I hope like hell they don't hurt someone the way he hurt their mama
Dday: August 9, 2013
S, until his head

Posts: 206 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
TrulySad
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Member # 39652
Default  Posted: 3:14 PM, October 4th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you! If it makes you feel better about yourself, you can't do it fast enough.

I think it helps to gain back who WE want to be. For me to respect myself, I dress and change my looks for what I like. If I catered to his fantasy, I think I'd never feel like it was truly me he wanted.


Me: Sad, but I will survive

True Love: What I have for my beautiful children.


Posts: 455 | Registered: Jun 2013
suposd2btheonly1
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Default  Posted: 4:23 PM, October 4th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I dont mind my hair red, I like it. I went through a time while I pregnant where I only kept my hair dark. WH has a habit of watching re head only porn while I was at work, while pregnant that it NOT something you do!!! I felt like he only wanted my hair red bc that's the kind of hoes he likes to beat off to. Once I got over that I went back to red. The OW has dark hair with the SAME hair style that I used to wear before I started growing my hair out bc he liked long hair. Shes like the younger version of myself, only 3 years younger than me when WH and I got together.

Sometimes I feel like he was in some stupid delusional land where he thought he was fucking the old me.

[This message edited by suposd2btheonly1 at 4:32 PM, October 4th (Friday)]


Me: BW 31
Him: WH 30
OW: 22yo whore who is still planning her wedding
Married 3yrs, together 5
4 kids, all boys 14, 11, 4 and 8mos...I hope like hell they don't hurt someone the way he hurt their mama
Dday: August 9, 2013
S, until his head

Posts: 206 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
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