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User Topic: Ugh. Just looked at OW's facebook
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 8:42 AM, October 4th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't go down the rabbit hole on purpose . . . however, I got a facebook friend request from the female half of the couple who bought our house in June. There's not really much of any reason for her to do that, since I only met her at our closing and then one other time when we were at our old neighbor's house for a cookout. She's ok, just really young (about OW's age) and a little vapid (kinda like the OW). So I got it in my paranoid head that maybe she's FRIENDS with OW and had added me to spy on me (insane I know, since this OW (payroll chick) wasn't someone who my H was physical with; just someone he had a "crush" on and tried to impress via witty texts and pictures of his fucking corvette.

So anyway, house chick has her friends' list set to private, so I unblocked and looked at payroll chick's profile to see if she was on there. Nope.

But God, she's pretty. And young. And pretty. And young. And busty. And young.

I was already having a bad day and now it's worse. I guess I was able to confirm that House Chick is not up to anything but friendliness and I'm a farking lunatic.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6832 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
TrustGone
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Default  Posted: 8:56 AM, October 4th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She is also very young, stupid, and broken to try and do what she did. Just remember that when you think of how she looked. Beauty is only skin deep, at least that's what my husband said when I pointed it out to him. I finally saw her picture by sneaking in through her son's FB friend's list. Not that ugly, but not someone that I thought he would have ever cheated with. I also know that it doesn't matter, she could have been really ugly and he would have probably still cheated.


BW-50
WH#2-51
M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

Posts: 2420 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 9:02 AM, October 4th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sadly she didn't really do anything wrong, other than reply to his texts, I guess. She never encouraged him, she never (from what I saw) flirted with him. She was just kind of a friendly airhead, and my H was falling all over himself to impress her after he met her ONE TIME (business reasons).

Ugh. So I can't even really BLAME her. Sure, she shouldn't have been chatty back with him, but I think when I was young and single, I might not have picked up on what a man that much older than me was up to. Because my brain just didn't work that way then.

He never touched this girl and yet it bothers me more than the physical contact he had with others, because he lied so much about her.

OK I'm only thinking about this because of stupid fucking facebook. I need to calm down.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6832 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
SoOver96
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Default  Posted: 9:10 AM, October 4th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Could you have left something in the house or garage? That could be a reason if she didn't have your number other wise there isn't reason for her to add you if she only met you one time

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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, October 4th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, I went ahead and accepted her. She didn't seem to need anything. I do miss my old house now after looking at her pics - they have painted and decorated and it looks nice. She probably wanted to access my pics so she could show her friends how blah it was before.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6832 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
TrustGone
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Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, October 4th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I divorced my XWH#1 for the same reason. I couldn't blame the girl, she was 18, he was 45 and knew better. When he said I couldn't tell him who to be friends with, I said OK and filed the next day. He would choose to be friends with an 18yr old? Hell our daughter was 18 and knew the little bimbo. If he would throw his family away for that, I no longer needed him. I am sure in looking back I was just tired of the other PA/EA that he put me through over the years and rugsweep, this was just my final straw and I wasn't taking it anymore.


BW-50
WH#2-51
M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

Posts: 2420 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 9:46 AM, October 4th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh yeah, the "so I can't have friends?" thing. Um, not young female friends who you google image search, ogle with your friends, and ask out on dates. So sorry. Such a controlling bitch I am. Fortunately he had a craniorectal extraction and he is pretty awesome now.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6832 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
womaninflux
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Default  Posted: 9:50 AM, October 4th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Chalk it up to the sex addiction. My SAWH said he objectifies EVERY woman. This explains a lot. So that + bad boundaries + insecurity and poor self esteem = Affair.


BS - mid-40's
SAWH - mid 40's
Kids - 2 elementary school aged
Getting tons of therapy and trying to "work it out"

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