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Okay, this bothers me.

A few days ago, I asked more clarifying questions about the 7 yr LTA that WH had with the skank prostitute.

I asked if he really believed he and she achieved simultaneous orgasms, which she apparently made sure he knew about because he was so special to her and had such abilities in her bed. (cue: sarcasm)

I reminded him that she was a prostitute and that was her job, to pretend that he's the best lover in the world.

WH said he probably got her off at least once--he really believes that (maybe his ego couldn't accept any other answer).

Today, my asking again, how did you know she got off, and he says because her moans were different & he "could tell."

I asked again how many times do you really think you got her off. He says a few times. I mentioned again that was her job, and did he really believe he got her off?

He says yes, and why did I think he didn't get her off?

My reply: because I've had sex with you.

WH has major issues with ED and PE and he's quite undersized from normal on the Bell curve--a big joke considering he is tall and broad shouldered.

I didn't marry him for his penis or his skills in bed. Pre-affair, a number of years into our marriage, there were problems in the bedroom, and he even tried the little blue pill & sometimes it just didn't work at all. When it did work, he "lasted" a few seconds longer than the normal 7 or 8 seconds. Of course, any time he got off, he was happy and full of himself, ignoring that he was leaving me frustrated. Selfish bastard.

So is it probable or even possible that a whore can get off for real instead of just acting? And can get off with a man who is undersize and orgasms too quickly?

I think it makes his relationship with the prostitute more "valuable" to him in reflection, because he thinks he made her bells ring.

I think she kept him around because of the steady income stream of money he kept giving her for her services, and really, he IS that fast and it's the easiest money she's ever made.

[This message edited by Hope2B at 1:48 AM, October 4th (Friday)]

He says yes, and why did I think he didn't get her off?

My reply: because I've had sex with you.

Sorry, I was laughing so hard I didn't answer the question.

Do I think it's possible he made her orgasm? Sure, anything is possible.

Do I think she was faking? Yeah, probably.

He says yes, and why did I think he didn't get her off?

My reply: because I've had sex with you.

This is hysterical

There is always a lot of fantasy when engaged in an A. Who the hell knows what the truth is between two obvious liars.

Sure she was in it for the fast, easy cash. The fact that this went on for 7 years probably ups the probability that he did make her bells ring... at least once.

I'm going to be chuckling about this all day.

Anything's possible. But the probable answer is

it's the easiest money she's ever made.

That's her job. If all it took to keep him coming back was a few well placed moans...that's probably what she gave him.

He says yes, and why did I think he didn't get her off?

My reply: because I've had sex with you.

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oh my that's funny...wasn't expecting that

I completely get what you are saying and I have a hard time believing that a prostitute would orgasm ever. I have said pretty much the same thing to my FWH. I stopped having sex with him before the A because I had told him it seemed like a waste of time for me. He got off and I was left frustrated and with a mess to clean up. I don't need to hear the details of their sex life. I know what it was like to be with him then. I know what a selfish ass he was in bed and I know that the only way she could have had an orgasm was if she finished herself off. He has said that he doesn't think she ever got off, she didn't even fake it, and since he was a self proclaimed "2 pump chump" I do not find that hard to believe. She was the very definition of a cum dumpster. I know the only reason she was sticking around was the hope that he would leave me, marry her and her financial worries would be over.

To bad for her that she kept him from getting help for his depression. Once he finally got away from her and the depression was treated, damn he is a different person in bed! And I am NOT complaining!

My reply: because I've had sex with you

Sure it's probable....

You could always have him watch the diner scene in When Harry Met Sally......

It's kind of sad really, but yes some men are fooled by the act prostitutes put on as part of their job.

I was married to a prostitute addict for about 13 years. I did not know it when I married him at age 19, and he was 26, that most, if not all of his prior experience was with hookers. He was not verbal about this but after 13 years, I read between the lines and some comments he made. I believe he thought their reactions to him were "real" and there was something wrong with me because I didn't get so carried away. He also just was not that great in bed and did not really know how to focus on a woman's needs.

My current H has been with 5 women in in his life, three of whom he married. I rarely talk about this but we have no problems in "that" area. There is really no comparison.

But I actually feel a little sorry for my XH because between the sexual abuse that went on in his childhood home, and his experience with the hookers, I don't believe he had much chance of having a normal healthy relationship with a woman.

Ok first - thanks for the laughs!

Everything is fake in an affair - why wouldn't her orgasims? Yeah she MAY have but more than likely he did just what my WH did - lied to himself about it. WH's OW has came FIVE times in her pathetic, slutty life. NONE of those were from WH. Yes her and I actually discussed that without her knowing why. She is such a dumb ass for thinking I was asking out of "friendship"!

First I must say I like your responce to your WS. Funny

Hell! No! I don't believe it either. She was getting paid to show how great he was. She wanted him to keep coming back. Don't buy it for a minute.

I think we married the same guy.

I have XWH#1 in my phone as "The Limp" and it wasn't becuase he had one leg that was shorter than the other.

I don't think its probable or possible.

Complete Lie on her part.

The female body does not orgasam in only a few mins. It just doesn't.

If she told him the truth that she didn't, she knows she would lose a client and her $$

I think it makes his relationship with the prostitute more "valuable" to him in reflection, because he thinks he made her bells ring.

I think she kept him around because of the steady income stream of money he kept giving her for her services, and really, he IS that fast and it's the easiest money she's ever made.

Ask him if she had sex with him for free? There's your answer.

Good and funny response, Hope2B.

This is something that bothers the hell out of me. Although OW wasn't a prostitute, I am sure it "acted" like it was getting off. Info from its first ex-husband leads me to believe this.

Now, OW was a pro at being an OW. FWH wasn't its first rodeo. OW was trying to lure my FWH away from me with what it feels is its golden va jay jay. OW knew how to give ego strokes and ego kibbles. Sociopathic tendencies, too. Knows how to play people and manipulate and enjoys doing it.

I am sure OW was howling with pleasure when with FWH. I am sure that is what kept him coming back.

he and she achieved simultaneous orgasms

Yep, this, too.

See, I am not an actress. I don't pretend to "get off" when I don't. I am sure I lost a lot of boyfriends because of that. However, there was nothing in it for me to pretend I had an orgasm. I want to have a real orgasm, not a fake one, damn it.

To why this bothers me. FWH still feels, I believe, that he was getting OW off. It is probable sometimes he may have. FWH is a fantastic lover and knows how to get me off, but sometimes it does take a little bit of work. He has also given me multiple O's. It has taken many years for us to get to know what works for both of us and what doesn't.

FWH gets off knowing he gets me off. So he was, I am sure, really addicted to the thought that he was "The Man" and how responsive OW's golden va jay jay was to his magic penis. I bet OW got off as soon as he touched it and he didn't have to do any work at all.

We just watched "When Harry Met Sally" for the umpteenth time, one of my favs. The restaurant scene where Sally has an orgasm is hysterical. I wanted to ask FWH does this maybe make you wonder? But, I didn't. Fuck that cray cray fake cumdumpster.

Ask him if she had sex with him for free? There's your answer.

Great point!

Ask him if she had sex with him for free? There's your answer.

Yes!

She probably did not climax.

But her moans of gratitude were real - - after all, he was he the perfect John. He came quick.

Unfortunately. it is also a commentary on how some men judge sex and what they want from it. After growing up playing video games and watching movies about virtual worlds or porn, the best sex may not be mutually satisfying so much as a great performance resulting in a convincing simulation.

WH said he probably got her off at least once--he really believes that (maybe his ego couldn't accept any other answer).

Wow, guess that was the all about HIM show if he 'thinks' he got her off a whopping ONE time in 7 years.

From your description of his depth of selfishness in bed, one would think over the years he would have become quite talented at 'other' skills to make up for his miserable performance and physical 'under-endowment' but I guess it wasn't important to him as long as HE was getting satisfied.

I guess all I can say it's a good thing you DIDN'T marry him for his penis or his prowess - you would have been sorely disappointed in both.

I was just going to ask if he'd been giving her money and at the end of your post, you mention EXACTLY that. What a coinky-dink.

Hey, I too could pretend to be 'getting off' with some guy whose hung like a hamster and takes all of 8 seconds to please HIMSELF if he's handing me money.

Honestly? He should be down on his knees thanking YOU that you're willing to settle for so precious LITTLE and haven't gone out and found a real man to satisfy you sexually.

Do I think it's possible, yes. Is it likely, probably not.

However, some women can cum more easily than others, and whoever said women cannot physically cum in minutes, I don't agree with.

I can cum with my DH (not the one who brought me to this site) in minutes. We know what works for us and it doesn't take long at all.