I've thought this often, sunsets, that the answers I don't have are what linger in mind.
However, if I attempted what you're possibly strategizing here, I would get more lies or rearrangements of the truth.
It's my two cents to add that the truth they have to give us is their "truth" and colored by what happened to them, so it probably will not match our truth and...may hurt more or add more confusion.
Closure can come from other sources but we have to recognize it. The X's are not on our side, not our friends, they do not have our backs. I know you've probably heard that over and over but it helps me to remember.
The closure is in the papers you sign and in moving to that beach and noodling through the gulf again, or whichever place you choose.
The ideas on your thread about the glasses are good ones and sometimes symbolism does help.
I'll add that I admire your chance to go where your heart takes you.Ashland 13
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.