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User Topic: For those who haven't told the other BS-
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Default  Posted: 8:34 PM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For the longest time after the ONS, I really wrestled with the idea of telling the OBS. I came close a couple of times - but never did.

11 months later HE called me and informed me it was an on-going A, not a ONS.

That, finally, led to the end of the A.

Tell the OBS. Tell, tell, tell, tell, tell, tell.....

BW - Reconciling

edited for typos (I always have to!)

Posts: 3630 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Midwest
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Default  Posted: 8:44 PM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I did not have to tell the BH, he started the A by inviting my fWH over to DO his wife while he watched.

BS 53
WH 44
M 14 years at time of DD
2 young daughters
DD 12-8-12
A-3 YEARS and her husband was an accomplice.
In R, IC, & MC Since 1 week after DD. On the mend with the help of God, Friends and Family.

Posts: 89 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Central FL
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Default  Posted: 9:08 PM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I didn't end up telling.

OW was mean to her H off and on all their "marriage". She kicked him out at least 3 times because she said she was still in love with my H, whom she broke up with 20+ years ago. Her H asked her to marry multiple times but she kept saying no--she was in love with my H still, despite the fact she knew my H was married. She didn't care...she still thought they could somehow get back together

So her H knew all along that she was "in love" with H.

Its very sad to me. This poor guy never getting her full love and yet he hung around all those years.

I looked him up on you tube...he's a musician and he was playing his instrument. He seemed like such a sweet and cool guy. Very attractive. very talented. very soft spoken. I have no idea why he just hangs around for 20+ years for her crumbs--they did eventually marry 3 years ago...when he knows she doesn't love him.

I am almost afraid it would kill him if he knew she was actively having an affair.

but sometimes i think--he probably does know but doesn't leave.

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