I am nervous and I am trying to keep my expectations in check. I look at some of my earliest post and I can feel my raw pain. Also, there are many sheer post that are bordering on crazy! Granted, I don't think I have had a cry-free day and they are days that I do still feel pain from the shock and hurt, but it does feel different. I have accepted that this is part of our past and it isn't going to change. I realize that me being vulnerable is going to be my biggest challenge and his biggest challenge is going to be making sure I feel safe and respected at all times.
So I wanted to say "Thank you!" for getting me through the hardest months of my life. You were my daily/hourly lifeline. I wasn't alone and there was always someone who was feeling exactly like me or someone who could offer sane words and advice. You have made me cry and laugh sometimes even in the same post! I know it isn't going to be easy and I still may have crazy roller-coaster posts and extremely rough days, but I am hoping I survived the worst of it and we can start building something from the ashes.
As always if you have any advice, please share! Otherwise, here goes Phase 2!
One of our biggest stumbling blocks has been when that raw pain dulled so did the vigilance of sticking to the plan. There was back sliding in both of our parts. As soon as we realized what was going on we stepped it up again and kept moving forward.
My only advice is try to stay vigilant and stick to the plan.
Good stuff!!! Thanks for sharing!!!
"Knowing is half the battle"
Expecting progress not perfection
I think you're doing this a very good way, and that maximizes your chances. The work isn't easy, but it is rewarding, and in the process of R, slow is fast.
And if you don't feel immense pain and worry about your sanity in this sitch, you just don't understand the sitch.
[This message edited by sisoon at 8:46 AM, October 3rd (Thursday)]
Also, I just realized that was my 100th post! Two milestones in one day, hopefully that is a good sign. When all of this started, I never thought I would feel sane again. It felt like I was in this huge black swirling mess. It took some time, but I have finally found a path. Unfortunately, I have no map and no idea where the path is going to take me...