How is one supposed to judge if she is serious or not?
My brother said all those same things, and he is dead. He meant every last one. So who judges when one is serious and when one isn't? If she is going to say it, then she needs help.
Tired girl, I am very sorry for your loss.
Dr., NOW!!! I cannot emphasize that enough. Right now, she is a danger to herself. Do WHATEVER it takes. Listen to what she is telling you. She is giving you justifications for her suicide. Without treatment this is headed there.
I'm a volunteer Critical Incident Stress Debriefer IRL. Brother, get help.
[This message edited by 5454real at 4:04 PM, October 2nd (Wednesday)]
TCD isn't the only person who can have a list of reqs for R. You can, too.
I strongly suggest you set a requirement that TCD gets help or you call 911 the next time she sounds suicidal.
My heart goes out to you and TCD.
But solving this is not something you can do yourself. You're not a mental health professional yourself, and if you were, you can't treat a loved one effectively.
Require TCD to get help for herself, or do it for her.
If you're having a tough time dealing with this, congratulate yourself for realizing it. Even though it's tougher on TCD, it's very, very difficult to watch a anyone, especially someone you love, go through this.
I attempted suicide and was placed in inpatient care and outpatient for a couple of weeks. While I was there I got intensive counseling, medication and a doctor who would be treating me. I was at the end of my rope and I thank god everyday that I am here.
Please seek help for her.
Call a suicide hotline -- you do it, if she will not. They are trained and will help you do the right thing.
And TTMU, even if she says, I was joking or I was exaggerating or I didn't really mean it, you still get her help / call a suicide hotline. Please do it right away. What she's saying, how often she's saying it, it's very very scary. You have to help her.
Please do it right away.
Praying for you and for TCD.
Eta: this is not below the level of 911. This is 911, if you cannot get her help any other way right now.
TTMU, I am going to pm you a URL from the university I work at about suicide risk. I work with undergraduates and I have the counseling center come talk to them in my class every year about just this. Anyone else who wants the link can pm me. I am not posting it here because I want to be anonymous on this site and do not want my workplace named.
[This message edited by StrongerOne at 10:51 PM, October 2nd (Wednesday)]