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User Topic: So what has your WS blamed you for
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Default  Posted: 10:50 PM, October 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Our faults are all so strikingly similar- it makes me feel better about myself!

1. You didn't allow "me to be me" (I guess if a grown man acting like a 15 year old boy is "him" - then I am unreasonable.)

2. Trying to control who he could be friends with- when I asked him to discontinue contact with his OW.

3. Our whole marriage was a "sexual sahara". Ouch! I really tried to fulfill his needs. Even when I had 7 children and was working full time and doing all the house and child care.

4. Only caring about money because in my divorce papers I asked for child support and alimony. I suppose I should not expect anything after 32 years of marriage. (Can you call years of his double life, secrets, lies and cheating a marriage?)

Etc, etc, etc, etc,

Me: 50
WH: 50 pro cake-eater, NPD, SA
Married 33 years
D-Days 3-4-12, 8-19-12 (EA, probably PA)porn,ashleymadison, etc, etc
4 sons, 3 daughters
8 grandkids
Divorcing - finally

Posts: 120 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Utah
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Default  Posted: 8:18 AM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Everything negative in his entire adult life.

Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington

Posts: 2287 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
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Default  Posted: 9:49 PM, October 15th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WS says I never kept a clean house, my cooking became terrible, I never responded when he was wanting ... I never listened...all a bunch of crap! I wasnt a great housekeeper, but our home was liveable. One of the things he kept saying after I found out the truth was that I was a great cook. And the only time I ever turned him down for sex was if he was asking when I was trying to leave to go somewhere. Yet he ignored my needs plenty of times. Its funny how they have to find something to make their affair your fault. I was faithful to my husband! He said he had been in love with this person for over 12 years. Somehow its supposed to be my fault?

Posts: 2 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: United States
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Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, October 16th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I Remembered Another One.
I Was Hard To Live With Because Everytime We Disagreed, I Ended Up Being Right And He Always Ended Up Being Wrong.My Response: Don't Talk About Something YoU Know Nothing About.

I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2326 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
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Default  Posted: 8:56 AM, October 17th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He told me that he tried to let me know "in his own way" that he was unhappy but I didn't pick up on it.

He had to tell me all these awful things like he never loved me because he was just trying to get out.

I didn't try hard enough to learn his language. This was so that I could talk to his parents and he could avoid them.

He thought about leaving me 10 years ago.
Um, that would have been 6 months after we bought a house together and when I was about 3 months pregnant.

I'm not sure if these are exactly blaming examples but, there you go.

BS: (Me) 47
Kids: twins DD(10)
D-Day April 18, 2011
Him:out Sept. 11, 2011
He moved to Europe June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"

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