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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do not give any indication that you are leaving to stbx or his parent. Pretend like everything is normal and moving as expected. As far as they know, you are staying in your apt and renting month to month. Do not tell them anything until you have arrived and unpacked at your parents' home.

(((more hugs))) and good luck!

And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

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Default  Posted: 6:16 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This morning when I dropped DS off at the in laws before work, his truck was in the driveway. I felt uneasy. What was he planning? Something is clearly up and I called my mom. She calmed me down, said call the attorney like you are supposed to and don't worry.

Everyone was right. I called atty and she said, you're still here? We met in August and I just wasn't ready to file or move at that point. I told her about the recent emails and she said whoever is advising him isn't a very good lawyer because he isn't offering you any type of support.

We talked about my options for leaving. She said if you can leave ASAP please do so. Even more cause now that he has expressed that he will no longer provide financial support.

I left. I had the support of my company, family, friends...etc. I had to act like I was picking DS up early for an appt so as not to tip anyone off.

I know in my heart I did the right thing. But I still feel sick inside. I'm loyal and loving and caring and I hate hurting my MIL and FIL. But they must have known.

I'm scared, worried, sad, tired, and confused right now.

When I got here I had a voicemail from my landlady saying WS called her to say he wasn't renewing the lease. This reminded me of her calling me a month ago to tell me that people were calling her for his rental history. He has been plotting and planning and positioning himself for months now. I was just too stupid to see it.

[This message edited by NewMom0220 at 8:25 PM, October 1st (Tuesday)]

Me: BS 36
Him: WS 37
14 month old DS
Married 5 years, together 8, DIVORCING!!! (taking forever)
DDay: 3/1/13 (4 Month PA while I was pregnant)
Sometimes all you have to do is forget what you feel and remember what you deserve.

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Default  Posted: 12:12 AM, October 2nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hugs to you, NewMom. That must have been incredibly difficult. You are so strong. I hope your parents are delighted with the gift they are receiving (you and DS).

BS (me) - 41
WH - 48, EA with HS GF x 2
M: 10 years, T: 20
2 small children
DDay#1 - Christmas 2011 (OW#1)
Confronted - 4/6/12
DDay#2 - July 9, 2012 (OW#2)
He is an SA (Oct 2012)

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