Should I invite STBX to join me in these classes? On the one hand, I would like him to have as many skills as possible to be a great dad to his kids, but on the other hand, I don't want him to get more custody and come out looking like Dad of the Year when we go through the D process.
He is SA and also has NPD traits, so who knows if he would even get anything from these classes.
Yes, that means the children suffer as a result. But you know the truth of dealing with a NPD SA: if they don't initiate the change and follow-through 100% on their own initiative, it's meaningless and will not "take".
I'm sure you know what I'm talking about......
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
It is what it is.