Thanks for the responses. I like the thought of transformations. The symbolic burning of the past so to speak.
I've been trying and trying to loose the weight that I've put on since my fWH and I started real R. I originally lost 48 lbs in 2 months thanks to the ISD (infidelity starvation diet) unfortunately the way I lost weight has exasperated a thyroid issue and currently my thyroid is kicking my ass. So maybe 2014 is the year that I beat this thing!!
Sad - all my dad ever wanted was for me to be happy.