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User Topic: He's pissed now!!!
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 2:30 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Apparently POS decided to look at the tax records online for our marital home and discovered that it is now only in my name. He just fired off a text to me: "You filed the change of the house deed without my approval. I will be filing legal action to remove the house from you."

Okay asshole. I have a previous text from you that said I get the marital house outright, I've got a notarized Quit Claim from you granting me sole ownership of the house legally, and you have signed the divorce agreement in front of a notary that gives me the house in its entirety and that has been officially filed with the court. Exactly what "approval" from you am I missing here to take legal possession of the home???

Geez, it must really be nice to live such a delusional life in NPD land...

Do what you gotta do, fucktwit, and spend more money that you don't have on frivolous action that will get laughed out of court...


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 2:38 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hilarious!

AJ's MOM


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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 2:39 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When he said this...
You filed the change of the house deed without my approval. I will be filing legal action to remove the house from you.
...exactly what did he think doing this...
I've got a notarized Quit Claim from you granting me sole ownership of the house legally
...meant?

Signing a Quit Claim is giving your approval to change the deed. I mean it is what its name implies. You QUIT any CLAIM to the deed. What an idiot.

ETA: spelling goof

[This message edited by Brandon808 at 2:42 PM, September 24th, 2013 (Tuesday)]


xBH
D final 8/2012

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lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 2:41 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He's not the brightest bunny in the forest.

[This message edited by lieshurt at 2:41 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)]


Walk away from anything or anyone who takes away your joy. Life is too short to put up with fools.

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5454real
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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lol. makes you wonder if he was going to try to use the home as collateral.

too bad so sad for him.


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DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
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Posts: 2984 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If he's pissed now, I would hate to see him after he is laughed out of court if it even gets that far.


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Posts: 1912 | Registered: May 2011 | From: VA
hexed
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Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

wow...i've heard some doozies around here but that's pretty high on the list of stupid.

enjoy the moment...


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

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Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

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Posts: 6526 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am surmising that co-ownership of the house was the cornerstone to his strategy of keeping a formal "residence" in the state with accompanying address...all for the purpose of avoiding debt collectors.

I guess now that the cornerstone has been removed, the foundation is crumbling, everything is collapsing and his house of cards is imploding... ahh, poor, poor, baby.... wahhhhhh!!

I guess in his NPD World a Quit Claim means "I am signing over the property legally but don't really mean it and you can't file it so I can keep up my smoke and mirrors game to the rest of the world..."


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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Housefulloflove
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Default  Posted: 6:52 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

But did you say "pretty please, with a cherry on top?" and then bent down and kissed his behind and promise to boost his ego for life? No? Well then you didn't *really* get his permission.

Ah, NPDLand..even the glitter farting unicorns aren't special enough to live there.


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3 beautiful young children
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Skan
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Default  Posted: 10:50 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ahhhh, that boy is the butter knife in the cutlery drawer of life. Not Too Sharp!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

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Default  Posted: 4:57 AM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I guess in his NPD World a Quit Claim means "I am signing over the property legally but don't really mean it and you can't file it so I can keep up my smoke and mirrors game to the rest of the world..."

I don't know Phoenix - you might be in trouble if he has proof and witnesses that his had his fingers crossed when he signed.

Did his L not explain this part in little words for him?


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
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to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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Lalagirl
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Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

fucktwit

This is a new one...and I
love it!

You filed the change of the house deed without my approval. I will be filing legal action to remove the house from you.

I love the way asshats write. You can fit an entire house inside of you - well, then yes, it MUST be removed!

spend more money that you don't have on frivolous action that will get laughed out of court...

Oh Phoenix, please don't tell him that it's all legally been taken care of...let him make an ass of himself and spend money.


Me - 49; FWH - 51
Married 31 years 9/2/14
2 grown daughters-30 & 27
5yo GS,22 mo.& 2 mo. GD (DD30) and 2.5 yo GD(DD27). D-day #1 - 1/06; D-day #2 - 3/07
Reconciled! Construction Complete.

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Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 3:45 PM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have completely ignored his text, and now, this morning, he is blowing up my email. Separate emails demanding that I send items xxx immediately. He seems to have forgotten that we have a signed separation agreement in place that gives me everything currently in my possession, and he has listed stuff I don't even have as well as stuff he has already picked up.

One of the best is that he is demanding that I ship three ATVs to him ASAP. First, he can kiss my ass if he thinks I would do that. Second, he already told the kids that he was giving them to them outright, so if he wants them he can tell the kids that he didn't really mean it (sounds eerily familiar to him not really meaning the Quit Claim) and deal with the fallout from that. Third, if he wanted them why didn't he pick them up when he was here in the state secretly in July?? I don't give a rat's ass about the ATVs, but I will be furious if he does this to the kids just because he wants to be a dick to me. Lastly, if he really thinks I would pay to ship them to him 4,000 miles away he is insane.

He has lost his sense of control and is going ballistic!! In response he gets crickets and eye rolls, and some chuckles over his sense of entitlement. This is how he rolls, and this is why I sucked up my pride and ate the proverbial shit sandwich over the past months being overly nice and civil to get him to sign the papers.

His true colors are certainly showing now! Mr. Civility, I think not...

ETA: What I would REALLY like to tell him is to put down the crack pipe because he has killed too many brain cells and exacerbating his stupidity... (he doesn't really do drugs, but it sure seems that way!)

[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 12:23 PM, September 26th (Thursday)]


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 3:50 PM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Phoenix - Just slipping in to whisper in your ear a bit. When NPDs lose control, really bad things can happen. I know he's far away and in the wrong and all that. But please reassure me that you're watching your back. Just in case he truly loses it.

Stay safe, ok?


You can call me NIK

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- Carlos Santana


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Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 3:57 PM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

But please reassure me that you're watching your back. Just in case he truly loses it.

I am, at least as much as I possibly can. I've seen him lose it with law enforcement (remember, that's his career), attorneys, city administrators, etc. over the years. I know how he responded and tactics he used so I have a good sense of what to expect, and I ALWAYS keep my guard up with him! I don't trust him AT ALL!

Thanks for the concern.


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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forced2moveon
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Default  Posted: 7:39 PM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He may be right.....

I'm not trying to stress you but this is what happened in my case.

My 1st cheating ex-husband convinced me to sign a quit claim deed removing my name on our marital home. He said he'd stop the divorce once I proved I wasn't in our marriage for the "stuff". He said that once it was filed with the court he'd stop our divorce. I signed over the deed and had my name removed and surprise, he never stopped the divorce. I immediately hired an attorney who filed a motion that the deed was filed by me under stress. The judge resended the deed back into both our names and the house was divided 50/50 between the both of us in our divorce.

[This message edited by forced2moveon at 7:42 PM, September 25th (Wednesday)]


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forced2moveon
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Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BTW My ex is also a commander for the LA Sheriffs Dept.

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Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 7:50 PM, September 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I immediately hired an attorney who filed a motion that the deed was filed by me under stress. The judge resended the deed back into both our names and the house was divided 50/50 between the both of us in our divorce.

Unusual things can always happen, I grant you. But he is going to be hard pressed to say he was under any duress when he also said it in a previous text conversation as well as signed off on the divorce settlement saying the same thing, and everything is already equitably distributed in the settlement including the house.

Plus, he will have to come up with money to hire an attorney and he is dodging debt collectors as it is...

I hear ya though forced2moveon. Did you sign your Quit Claim in front of a notary? I ask because they are required to ask the signer if they are under any duress and signing of their own free will.


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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