OK so you think there is nothing you can do legally, but there are things you can do on your own within the law that will protect your kids as much as possible. You have 3 young kids right? Out of those three there is probably one who is strong, vocal, and noone would mess with, because they know she/he would tell. This kid needs to be talked to, and say no matter what you and your siblings are never to be alone with this man. Altogether ok, alone, absolutely not.
I can and will do this. We have talked a lot about not helping adults, how adults simply do not need kids to help them (lost dog, lost kitten), adults don't go up to strange kids to show them stuff (kitten, parrot, whatever). We've also talked about how if any friend, boy/girlfriend or roommate of either me or Daddy ever bothers you or gives you a creepy feeling, please tell immediately. I've told them that they are far more important than anyone else in the world.
Remind them bad people do nice things to trick kids, and since you don't know this guy you are asking them to protect themselves.
Will do.
What about going over there, and demanding the information? What about calling the house, and say the kids liked the cake, but I don't let my kids eat food from strangers, so you need to tell me your name, or it's going to be real uncomfortable for you the next time you give them a cake, as I have told them to refuse it, until I know you don't have Hep A.
This would probably get me arrested or, at the very least, slapped with a restraining order.
Hell kids can't take home baked stuff to school anymore for this reason, it's not out of reason, and certainly not if he's going to Thailand. I would also ask for proof that he doesn' t have Tuberculosis, since Thailand is one of the countries that is known to have higher rates of this horrible disease that we do not imunize for. I would just be a pain in their neck until this guy gets uncomfortable, and stops, or leaves.
This is one of the things that concern me, what his health status might be. But if I make a stink about it then I look like the crazy person. Disease organisms seldom survive the cooking/baking process. I cannot do anything to compel this man to provide me with his health status. Do you realize how utterly insane that would appear to the courts if I tried?
Think outside the box on this stuff you will be surprised with what you can come up with.
My kids have had two experiences where the Creeper Radar was pinging like crazy, and they were right on both. Both men in leadership positions. One was caught, and has since disappeared from our area, the other still in leadership, but not around my kids. They were pretty young with the first one, I would say about 6 & 8 years old. Do the kids say this guy is creepy?
Part of what bothers me is how STBX has systematically brainwashed the children since we separated. He tells them not to tell me where they go or what they do when they're with him. He told them to keep his move a secret. He tells them lies about me and makes them repeat the lies back to him. They've learned to go along with whatever he says in order to not have him get mad at them. He's told them over & over that I want to get him in trouble. So any information I get from the kids has to be delicately extracted. I have been warned by my ATTY not to pump the kids for information. It's okay for STBX to pump them, he does it daily during their daily phone calls. He gets every shred of info from them, from the time they went to be the night before to when they got up, everything they ate or drank, what they wore, what they did, what I do, who I saw, who came to the house. Everything. But I am not supposed to ask them anything because his lawyer has already tried to go after me a couple times for parental alienation (which was totally made up by STBX and is actually a projection of what he's doing). One time when I asked my kids where they were going to go with Daddy today my most mature child lit into me, telling me it was none of my business! Oh, they're brainwashed alright.
It is so many kinds of screwed up, I can't even name them all.
I think that since my kids keep mentioning this guy, there must be something about him. My gut instinct activated the first time they mentioned him. Something isn't right. The kids have never said he's creepy, and I've asked them. Furthermore, since STBX is their father their normal instincts are warped anyway. They have to do all the mental gymnastics necessary to make it okay in their heads to have a loving relationship with him when, as I've shared here so many times, he's a sexual pervert.