First and foremost: His cheating has absolutely nothing to do with you. Nothing you did (spending, not spending) is the reason he cheated. He cheated because he is broken and needs something no one can give him.
Please get yourself tested and don't let him anywhere near you until he does too.
Try to get some sleep. If you can't eat try drinking ensure or smoothies. We'll all be here to help and we've all gone through this hell.
Hugs to you...
Of course just like before he says its because I hid things from him and lied to him
Yep, good excuse to look up and connect with women from Craigslist. I hope you are not buying his bullsh*t.
What did he do to fix himself after your first D-Days?
He is a liar, and don't ever accept blame for his actions.
Do not have sex with him, you need to get tested ASAP.
D-day #1 Jan 31 2007
D-Day #2 March 25 2007
Roll on Roll on Roller Coaster
We're one day older and one step closer
Roll on there's mountains to climb
Roll on we're on borrowed time
Working on Re
He should be sitting down with you and talking about money, not running to some skank. If he can't live with it, then he should just leave. There is never, never, never, and excuse for infidelity. Never.
Time for a 180 and a talk with a lawyer. So, so, sorry he is doing this to you.
Bunni, you must be a very strong person. You have been through so much already with the first D-Day and losing your house. Go back to your IC as soon as you can. Do you have anyone in real life that can help you out? This is more than any one person should have to handle without support.
Take your time deciding where to go from here and be gentle with yourself. You've been through a lot of emotional trauma.
*edited to correct my mistakes.
[This message edited by Gemini71 at 9:50 PM, September 21st (Saturday)]
Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.
In the meantime, keep reading here, keep posting, and remember your H has put his wants and needs first, and he has proven himself to untrustworthy, although taking the right steps, you need to put you first now too.