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User Topic: Who tried dating sites
Fireball72
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Default  Posted: 10:18 AM, September 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I met my husband on OKCupid in 2011 - we got married six months ago on March 20th.

We're actually more happy right now than we were even on our wedding day.

I'm aware that our story isn't the norm, though, so proceed with caution.

I do agree that OKC is better than the others out there. I couldn't STAND POF when I was on that - ugh.


XBS - 42 and fabulous :D
Remarried happily in 2013
A relationship is built for two. But apparently, some bitches don't know how to count!

Posts: 602 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: The Chesapeake Bay
trumanshow
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Default  Posted: 3:56 PM, September 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thought this was funny-esp the male and female meaning for "friendship first"


WOMEN
40-ish......................49
Adventurer.............. Has had more partners than you ever will
Athletic................... Flat-chested
Average looking...... Yeah, right
Good looking............Average
Educated.................College dropout
Emotionally Secure...Thanks to Zoloff
Flirt...........................Bring your penicillin
Free spirit................ Substance user
Friendship first......... Trying to live down reputation as slut
Fun......................... Annoying
Gentle..................... Comatose
Good Listener...........Borderline Autistic
New-Age.................. All body hair, all the time
Open-minded............Desperate
Outgoing.................. Loud
Passionate............... Needy
Poetic........................Depressive Schizophrenic
Professional.............. Witch
Reubenesque............Morbidly obese
Romantic.................. Looks better by candle light
Wants Soulmate........One step away from stalking
Young at heart.......... Toothless crone

MEN
40-ish....................... 52 and looking for 25-yr-old
Athletic......................Watches ESPN
Average looking.........Bald but has hairy neck
Educated...................Smarter than you
Free Spirit..................Would sleep with you and your sister
Friendship first............As long as friendship involves nudity
Fun........................... Good with a remote and a six pack
Good looking............. Arrogant
Honest.......................Pathological Liar
Huggable.................. Overweight, more body hair than a bear
Likes to cuddle...........Insecure, overly dependent
Mature.......................Until you get to know him
Open-minded.............Wants to sleep with your mom too


Your ex wanting to be friends is like asking a kidnapper to stay in touch when they let you go.

The type of fierce loyalty that I possess made me incapable of comprehending the level of disloyalty that he possessed


Posts: 1753 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: Charlotte, NC
Embers2Fire
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Default  Posted: 8:14 PM, September 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My fiancee and I met on POF we will be celebrating 4 ys together on the 29th of this month and will be getting married on the 1st of November. So yea I think those sites absolutely work. But you do have to give it time. You will meet plenty of people you do not romantically click with but you might make a new friend out of that. My fiancee and I would have never met had it not been for that site. I am so glad I gave it a chance. Just make sure to tread cautiously and guard your heart. Good luck on your journey.


BS - me 49
XWH - him 48
DDay 05/08
Married 25 yrs, 2 sons 28/23
Divorced
2nd Marriage 11/1/13 livng the dream
Thanks to you I'm finally thinking about me, you know in the end the day you left was really my begnning - Kelly Clarkson

Posts: 420 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: Memphis, TN
just_breathe
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Default  Posted: 3:22 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Online Dating? Oh, hell to the yeah! OLD is a great way to expand your dating pool.

Went on OKCupid a year after divorce was final and I'm now married to the wonderful man that I met there. Sure, you have to meet a few loony birds and go through the uncomfortable process of telling them you're not interested in pursuing a relationship, (ex.: comb over guy who started to plan our Christmas vacation on first date), but it's totally worth it in the end. Good luck!


Married 30+
BS 54
Serial cheater-58 NPD, alcoholic/addict

Happily divorced since 2/1/11

The best way to make your dreams come true is to wake up.


Posts: 172 | Registered: Apr 2010
Stillhurting1977
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Default  Posted: 10:44 PM, September 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am currently dating a guy I met on Match and he is a fantastic man and we are falling for each other big time! Funny thing is, his marriage ended bc his ex was unfaithful too so it helps to have that in common.
There are some weirdos out there for sure, but at least you know some of the people on these sites are looking for a relationship. Truth is, is there are weirdos everywhere.


D day Sept 2011
D Day # 2 March 15, 2013 (he never stopped the first affair, it went underground)
Me BW 36
Him WH 37
One little guy: 26 months
Status: Seperated, Divorcing

" Noone can make you feel inferior without your consent" Eleanor Ro


Posts: 159 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Canada
msk99
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Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I did Match and found a nice woman I dated for about 6 months. I ended it about a month ago. Overall, I found the OLD experience pretty good, I didn't have any creepellas. Not sure if I'll eventually go back on Match or POF to change it up a bit. I like the concept of OLD, a little on the shy side and it allows me to break the ice with an email as opposed to walking up to a woman I'm attracted to and breaking the ice that way (.....and finding out she's not available, lol).


BS (Me): 40 STBXWW (Her): 40
M: 15 Years, 2 Awesome Boys
Divorced

Five simple rules of happiness:
1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.


Posts: 712 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Alberta
lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 3:00 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks to OLD, I now have a wonderful DIL and two of the most beautiful GD ever born!


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks


Posts: 7281 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
I.will.survive
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Default  Posted: 5:48 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been dating my SO for 6 months now and he was my ONLY date from ChristianMingle.com.

I weeded out all the winkers, emails from men way over my age range or not even in my area and profiles that just did nothing for me.

He is a technical writer and he hooked me with his perfect grammar, spelling, etc. We had both been separated the same amount of time and both were divorced within 2 months of each other.

We have children the same age.

We never would have met if it wasn't for that site. We live 45 mins apart, opposite sides of the city.

Grow a thick skin, be VERY picky and just be careful and listen to your gut. It could be a great experience!

P.S. I have 2 friends that met and married from Match and eHarmony.


Posts: 530 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: east coast
Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, October 2nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ironically I met my STBXWW over ten years ago on Jdate. (Nice job, Jdate!)

But I am still a big proponent of OLD. Before I met my WW, I spent a couple of years doing OLD after I'd gotten out of a five-year relationship. Went on around fifty dates!

Most were duds in one way or another, but I did meet many vey nice, normal people, one of which turned into a true relationship for a year.

Just be careful, wade through the weirdos, and have fun.

Oh, and my best piece of advice: for a first date, make it coffee or a drink. No dinners, no activities. (IMO). Despite you having "bonded" over the phone, email, and pix, the SECOND you meet in person all that goes out the window and it you're starting at square one. Don't build it up too much before you meet.


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


Posts: 1627 | Registered: Dec 2012
Confused1829
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Default  Posted: 9:46 AM, October 2nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good comments. Very interesting. I've been looking into doing this more - SOOO tired of the bar scene and dating friends of friends isn't an option (I did that before, we broke up and it made our friends feel awkward).

The only thing is you still have to sort through a lot of people to find what you really like. Another job I don't have time for! :)


Me: fBW 31
DDays: May 31 2011 & Aug 6 2011. Divorced November 14, 2011 (No Kids)

Posts: 282 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: New York City
thyme2go
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Default  Posted: 4:24 PM, October 3rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have never, ever in my life tried OLD so I gave it a shot last weekend. What did I do wrong? Three contacts/connections/dates with 36 hours and had to hide my profile as I was/am over-whelmed.

My take is that OLD is a great way to meet people.

At the very least, I now have several new, very pretty, FB friends!


-t2g


BH - no longer 48
3 DD's - (27, 24 and 17)
Divorced on 8/6/09

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