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Default  Posted: 10:10 AM, September 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have started posting here as I believe teach and I are on the journey of reconciliation. I'm happy to be posting here now. I am wondering if any WSs have had that light come on where they feel so insecure and are now showing it outwardly? I know how I acted before is apart of masking those insecurities. And now I feel like I'm wearing them like a coat. They are out for everyone to see. Especially Teach. Feeling volnerable. New and scary. To actually express. Even BSs is this something that has gotten more intense for you after DDay? I know Teach has said things like this.

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Default  Posted: 2:41 PM, September 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Default  Posted: 5:00 PM, September 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Scream,

Welcome to the Reconciliation Forum .

I felt so insecure about everything for a long time. And after d-day the feeling of everything being exposed, all my weaknesses, and then all the digging deep through all the 'stuff'...kind of ick but empowering at the same time!

So, as time passed I got more comfortable in my own skin. Learning how to live authentically, and knowing how to love myself, and that LD loves me (all of me, even the really ugly stuff), helped me learn to be okay with just being me.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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Default  Posted: 6:03 PM, September 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am a BS, but both my spouse and I were both wildly insecure for quite some time. He was afraid he would come home and I would be gone, any day, any moment. I felt like someone had removed my skin with a cheese grater and left a bloody footprint with every step I took. I felt like people could SEE inside me for a really long time.

You know what? Embrace it. It is scary but you will grow through this experience.

For my part, I promised that I would never disappear on him - unless I caught him cheating again. Barring that, if I decided I had to end things between us, it would be a conversation face to face. It gave him a bit of comfort in order to keep fighting the good fight.

Hang in there and make good choices!


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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Default  Posted: 6:27 PM, September 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanky you for posting. It is scary to actually realize its something I have been hiding behind for a long long time. But nice to acknowledge it. I'm sorry my insecurities made Teach feel even more of hers for so long. I guess I see her differently. Almost surprised at things she may be insecure about. But I should be more in touch with what she is saying to me. And talking about what we are both feeling. Can't be afraid of her anymore. She is my wife. I am her husband. Thanks again.

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