Welcome to the Reconciliation Forum .
I felt so insecure about everything for a long time. And after d-day the feeling of everything being exposed, all my weaknesses, and then all the digging deep through all the 'stuff'...kind of ick but empowering at the same time!
So, as time passed I got more comfortable in my own skin. Learning how to live authentically, and knowing how to love myself, and that LD loves me (all of me, even the really ugly stuff), helped me learn to be okay with just being me. Take up your space (and do it well).
"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."