Bionic, I think you hit it when you said that one of the hardest things was for you to admit that your H was a dishonest man at the time of his A. He did things you will never be able to fully understand. Here, here.
Yes. He absolutely messed the timeline and firmly believed his dad confronted him in 2011.
So this now means to me that his path to enlightenment was not quick. It was long and ugly and I have to now accept this new info. That his dad's visit did not shake him...enough. He rug swept it.
As for the other notes Rebreather. He swears up/down that not only did he not see the AP in a sexual way in 2012 the note between him and his bf was about his bf. There is one key element there that supports that when he wrote, "I will tell our sons to do as I say and not as I did. Note the past tense, "did". He goes on to say the road is messed up when our brains are in our dicks.
The email between him and his president where he singles out a few people including her for great support, he said he doesn't know why he did that and can't even recall doing it but yes, he was still foggy. Perhaps he didn't want any trouble in the future. Perhaps he wanted to tie things up "nicely" as she already felt disregarded. I asked him to give it more thought.
As for why I went looking when things have been so good, when I took Chicho's advice and calmly let him know during this conference how I felt. I guess the tension got to me...I felt it within me, I felt it from him. Wanted to know if I was missing something....Perhaps it was too soon for us to be around her no matter how beautiful a place we are in now. There is too much ugly from the past that even natural beauty can't heal.
Since I cannot bad mouth her on R, I will be posting my thoughts on General bc all I can say now is "Your kidding right? Really?" I do need to release those thoughts.