This shit sucks.
Rant away RB.
I filed that afternoon. She immediately told her family and friends that 'I was kicking her out'.
Her: WW/56 Me: BS/62, 24yrs M
3 great kids, now 22, 20, 17 b,b,g
D-Day 8/14/08, D 1/13/11
she didn't want her actions to have consequences?
She seems to forget her 7yr A and how that might, just might have some hurt feelings and mistrust associated with it (insert extreme anger and sarcasm here). Strangely, I am the one walking on eggshells. Pretty ingenious way to mask your destructive choices by putting everyone else on the defensive. I swear, she should be working for the CIA doing psychological warfare policy and tactics.
My wife married me because I was stable and secure. I think all of us here are. However, stable and secure also means boring. (except for Tred and Wonderboy)
AP was exciting and a fun "bad boy". The bad boys however, are unstable and offer no security thus why WW's need to go outside the marriage but yet stay in the marriage. Maybe Razor has a point that if I could just "not give a damn" my "Bad Boy" status would go up as well as my mental health.
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Bought a TV this weekend. I'd been wanting one for a while. The old me would have "asked permission" from the WW. Not so much anymore.
Conversation went like this:
ME: "I'm buying a new TV."
HER: "Don't I get a say in it?"
ME: "Not really. It's going on my account and I'm using my money. I'll let you use it when it's set up and working. How's that?"
And damn if it didn't feel good to do that...
She wants answers... I'm still trying to figure out what the questions are.
AP was exciting and a fun "bad boy". The bad boys however, are unstable and offer no security thus why WW's need to go outside the marriage but yet stay in the marriage.
I have no doubt that this is typical of a WW mindset. My response to that would be to grow up. This isn't 1989, and my wife isn't in high school anymore. If they want the bad boy, marry them then report back to us in about 12 months. If you want to feed your inner wild child, get a rose tattoo or pierce your navel like a 20-year old. There's no excuse for cheating, but I have no doubt immaturity plays a huge role.
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Her inability to reflect on her own choices and consequences is maddening.
That's her "move". Just think about it. Every bad thing that has happened has probably been someone else's fault. It's ALWAYS someone else's fault. That's how folks like this operate.
There are givers and there are takers. Period. You are on one side of the fence or the other.
Your WW probably noted the fact that you were a giver and got on your "free ride" train. You have ejected her from that train that she believed she had every right to be on. Her getting ejected is your fault. Your job was to give.
It's maddening to find out reality isn't what you thought it was. It happened to me when I found out I was married to a WW.
Of the 5 men I have discussed my situation with, 4 of them have been cheated on and I suspect the 5th was but didn't tell me.
All 5 were engineers. I think we might just be unlucky though...
What is your area of engineering? Just curious. My B.S. is in Chemical Engineering, but I am physician now.
Oh and a big AMEN from me to all of those facing the wrath of the entitled. My fww princess (reformed) spit nails for quite some time following my filing through early in R when she realized I was not the same doormat she had carefully trained.
Strangely enough, we were talking about this only a week ago and she actually enjoys life much better now that SHE is accountable for her actions and does not rely on me or others to make her happy or take the blame. She has grown up a lot in the last two years. Her previous existence really made her miserable.
Sorry to all of those whose wives can't seem to muster the strength to find their "healthy."