Seeing as she just moved to AZ from PA this week, Iíve never had reason to tell him this. He has called her in front of me, texted her in front of me, accepted her calls in front of me, told me he loves her in front of me (while telling me it was his daughter or his sister, of course)for the last 3 years of our marriage when I didn't know about the affair, that I felt it very much necessary to gently inform him she is not welcome. I felt it prudent NOT to bluntly blurt out that she is not welcome and that I will have her skank ass arrested for trespassing if she so much as steps a toe on my property line. Never mind the possible ass whooping for all of the disrespect he and his mistress have both shown me.
Hmmmm, do they all say stupid stuff and try to provoke a response.
My response: crickets.
And each time after this weekend that he needs to come get anything I will inform him again in writing that he is not to bring her on my property.
Fortunately, I now will have time to pack his stuff up that he doesnít get this weekend and put it in boxes. I will politely put it on the curb for any future visits. I will also make it a point to not be there when he comes for his stuff.
I cannot believe this PA crap used to get to me before.
Does anybody know the legal timeframe before his crap is considered abandoned so I can donate it to Good will or toss in the trash?
I too told the x not to bring his floozy onto the property. I went so far as having a retraining order on her.
I would definitely put the no floozy allowed in writing EVERY time he is coming by to gather his stuff. You also need to tell him that he needs to gather ALL his stuff now. It is very rude of him to have to inconvenience you time and time again when its convenient for him to get his stuff. I would go to my attorney and have a document drawn up to say he has two weeks or a month or some time frame that you are OK with to get all of his stuff and then after that time frame he is no longer legally allowed onto your property or you will have him arrested for trespassing. I would then put the remainder of his stuff int he trash or give it away.
[This message edited by StillLivin at 11:55 AM, September 17th (Tuesday)]