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User Topic: Is it the parents fault when people go postal?
idkam
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Default  Posted: 7:58 PM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My SO and i are having a heated discussion about what happen in DC today...he said it is the parents fault when a grown ass man go postal and kill 12 people...i say the person made a conscious decision to shoot those people... When do people stop blaming the parents?

I eaid to say it was the parents fault take the accountability from the perpetrator...

What say you?


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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 8:00 PM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with you.


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idkam
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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Edited for errors...

What i meant to say was:
When people say its the parents fault they take the accountability from the perpetrator...


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NotDefeatedYet
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Default  Posted: 9:08 PM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Personal responsibility seems to be a term unknown to many.


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heartbroken0903
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Default  Posted: 9:16 PM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with you, and I think it's a shame when parents (in most cases) do the very best they can to raise decent children and yet they, the parents, are blamed for their offspring's horrible behavior/choices. It's too bad.


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Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, September 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No, it is not the parents fault. Now, the parents may have contributed with huge FOO issues, but then again them may not have. And mental illness may also be a contributing issue. I don't know the circumstances here.

But I do know that children brought up in the exact same household with the exact same parents can turn out as polar opposites. Mental issue can play a part, personality can play a part, and just being born as a freaking psychopath or social path can play a part.

But ultimately it comes down to personal responsibility. The exception, IMO, are young persons who do not know they have a mental illness. But if you KNOW you have a mental illness and make a choice to not seek treatment or stop treatment, then that is a choice. And if you then cause personal harm to another person then YOU are responsible. Again, JMHO.


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lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I read that the gunman killed had been treated by the US for mental problems including paranoia, hearing voices, that sort of thing.


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lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 8:24 AM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

But if you KNOW you have a mental illness and make a choice to not seek treatment or stop treatment, then that is a choice. And if you then cause personal harm to another person then YOU are responsible.

Part of the problem is people with mental illnesses often do not realize it. They think everyone else is the problem.


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

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Default  Posted: 8:40 AM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

my brother had schizophrenia. I can tell you for sure he didn't know he had a problem. My Mom had him committed, he got out and then took his own life by walking in front of a truck.

Is it my parents fault he had a disease? Don't think so.


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idkam
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Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, September 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good points friends..
Dream- i totally agree with what you stated..
Attention to mental disease has been on the back burner for quit some time... Hopefully this will not only get people talking about it but also working to help those with mental issues...


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