My WW had her first IC session this morning. It must have really shaken her up as she has been doing a lot of crying and has been very withdrawn since the appointment. Is this a good sign or a bad sign? Or am I trying see something where nothing exists?
I have not (and will not) ask about her IC, but WW volunteered the therapist called her out on ‘some stuff’ and told her if she expected to still be married in five years she was going to have to stop lying to herself as the first step. I guess he was pretty blunt about it when he told her. She also has some homework to start before her next session (Thursday morning). I hope she is willing to continue with this guy. Our agreement is if she doesn’t like him after three sessions she can find a different one.
WW is also asking why I haven’t questioned her about the affair. I told her I needed to wait until we are in MC. That I felt MC would be a safer environment for me to ask and her to answer. She said she is dreading MC and my questions but can’t undo what she has done. Again, I am wondering if her dreading MC is a good sign, bad sign, or no sign.
Me–BS age 61
Her -- WS age 59
Married for 34 years
One child, 30yrs
Her 'A' 1994(?) through 1998
D-Day 7/4/2013 Yes, I didn't find out for almost 15 years... but the pain is just as bad as if she were with him last week.