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User Topic: Two month from d day
sunsetslost
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Default  Posted: 11:59 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes I know my thing at the bottom says 6/13/13. I'm too dumb or lazy to change it. Today is the two month mark for my DDay. I'm over her. I don't have anxiety anymore. I'm more fortunate than most. I'm 36. No kids. No fight whatsoever from her. I can dictate my own terms upon exit. I'm going home (the beach) when the house sells. She's paying what she owes for now. She's staying away. I wish you all strength and hope. I know I will have rough times. I'm so grateful to each and every one of you for your advice, your counsel and your comfort. I know I am not alone. I will be a member of this site until I my last days. Thank you all. I will pay it forward always.


Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

Posts: 758 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: The beach.
h0peless
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Default  Posted: 12:05 AM, September 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((brohugs

This shit isn't for the faint of heart. I'm glad you're finding some peace through all of this. Just remember that it's also OK to let yourself feel pain if it hits you.

Do me a favor and drink a few glasses of water before bed.


Posts: 1694 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
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Default  Posted: 7:13 AM, September 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just remember that it's also OK to let yourself feel pain if it hits you.

^^THIS.

I found the pain difficult to accept because this is SO not the worst thing that has ever happened to me. Not by a long shot. I was forged in fire. I survived some pretty horrific things.

Frankly I was annoyed and angry at myself that something so fucking cliche didn't just hurt my feelings but had me on my fucking knees.

But it did. It just did. It shows I'm still a thinking, feeling being. That is a good thing. I'm working through and healing a whole bunch of stuff in the aftermath of this straw that broke the camels back.

I hope the house sells quickly so you can move back to the beach and continue in your healing.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5576 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
sunsetslost
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Default  Posted: 7:50 AM, September 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm ok. I really am. I know there will be setbacks. My therapist asked where I saw myself in five years had nothing happened. Without hesitation I said " in a much more bitter divorce with a ton of debt and resentment". The most amazing thing through this process is that I have, for the first time in a long time, focused on what I want in life. And affair or no affair those things were and are impossible with my STBX. It hurts and it sucks and ill miss her for a time but I will be happier than I could've been with her. She's a broken, selfish person. My awakening has been awesome.


Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

Posts: 758 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: The beach.
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