Met with a different laywer yesterday. In 1 hour (at 1/2 price of fired attorney) I got my questions answered and much advice. There were 2 major issues that were not even brought up to me by fired lawyer.
The new lawyer did say I probably got screwed out of $20,000 to $30,000. He then said it probably wasn't worth it to go after it, I agreed.
Strategy wise he thinks I should not retain him. And wait to see if STBXH lawyer draws up the paperwork. Every month not divorced means I am saving $650 for health/medical.
But while I like my $$$, I don't want STBXH thinking I am delaying because I still care, and I don't want him using not divorced so he can't marry OW#3. Right now he is probably real comfortable being engaged and living with her, but can't get married.
Can you all help me think of the pros and cons on how best to do this.
Also some things I learned:
1)after cs ends, I should go back to court to have my ss increased. There is only a 6 month window of opportunity to do that. He says the courts know that cs&ss is what is keeping me afloat, and if numbers stay same, the ss would increase. My lawyer did not tell me that and I would have never asked for the courts to review, I would have been afraid they would take it away.
Also while I requested (and of course was ignored) about life insurance policy, I can refile and get that back in when it expires in a couple of years.
Also when I got the emergency order for cs, ss the paperwork said starting on a date late in the month. STBXH was very quick to point that out and said I would not be getting $ on the first.
The new orders state payment on the first and that is when I should be receiving it. I had emailed STBXH that it was now due on 1st, he said he would continue to pay me later in month.
New lawyer says that for 1 hour work he can have STBXH wages garnished and I won't have to deal with him at all!
If he doesn't pay me on the first this next month, that is what I will be doing.
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3
They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen