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User Topic: Good news
MylarPineapples
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Default  Posted: 3:32 PM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Got some good news today: Coworker #2 just quit her job. So that is one less person I have to wonder about when my WH goes to work every day. I had a few minutes of feeling excited about this, but now I feel kind of "meh", I think for two reasons: one, because I truly do believe my WH established NC with her, and two, because I know that if they DID decide to break NC they don't NEED to work together to do so. But overall I think it will be a good thing that she will not be there anymore.


Me: BS, Him: WH, 3 kids
8/08: EA with former neighbor
1/13: EA/Sexting with Coworker #1
6/13: Sexting with Coworker #2

Posts: 116 | Registered: Jun 2013
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 4:07 PM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree that this is good news. The more distance put between them, the better.

Posts: 7638 | Registered: Dec 2010
MylarPineapples
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Default  Posted: 9:23 PM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Of course, then tonight I asked him if he saw Coworker #1 today. He said yes, she sat down with him and some other coworkers at lunchtime and he chatted with her. Which is something we talked about at MC last week, because he admits to occasional chats about light personal topics with Coworker #1. We discussed at MC how even though the conversation might be "nothing inappropriate" and he "knows now what he did was wrong," it is still unwise to have personal conversations with a previous OW, who has proven herself to be a person with poor boundaries in the past. The MC explained to WH how he needs to recognize that boundaries are a weakness for him and it would probably be best for him to avoid friendships with such people, especially a person he's had inappropriate relationships with before. Apparently that all went right over his head.

I didn't say anything today. I'm tired of beating my head against the wall about it. I'm just tired of all of it. I'm really tempted right now to just keep my mouth shut and observe, give him all the rope, and see how long it takes him to hang himself with it.

[This message edited by MylarPineapples at 9:28 PM, September 12th (Thursday)]


Me: BS, Him: WH, 3 kids
8/08: EA with former neighbor
1/13: EA/Sexting with Coworker #1
6/13: Sexting with Coworker #2

Posts: 116 | Registered: Jun 2013
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

To me, it sounds like your MC is using kid gloves on your husband. There should be NC whatsoever. If it's unavoidable through work and he can't switch jobs, then any correspondence should be 100% professional, and nothing else.

I'm sorry to hear about him having lunch with Coworker #1. Completely unacceptable, IMHO.


Posts: 7638 | Registered: Dec 2010
Dreamland
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Default  Posted: 11:02 PM, September 12th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree NC.. In fact did he ever write NC letters to them.. This is important to sever all ties.. He should avoid her completely unless its work related. Honestly I wouldn't let my WH work in the same office. I hate that he still work downtown 3 blocks away from the OW.. I still have major triggers.


Me-BS 50 Him-WH 47, DD17
Together since 1993, Married 19 yrs
DDay 3/12,4/12,7/12 EA-PA OW - 25 single husband chasing bastard whore

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