And I hope that when you're intimate with your adulterous, promise-breaking, covenant-destroying, disrespectful, cake-eating husband that you insist he wear a condom EVERY time. If you won't do anything to protect your spirit or your emotional/mental health, I hope you will at least protect yourself physically from whatever diseases or infections he brings home from his whore-fest of a Vegas weekend. And from this point onwards, as well. Your health isn't safe with him as long as he's cheating on you.

Just to clarify a couple of things:

* We're not having sex etc. That bakery is closed and boarded up!

* He's not in a relationship with COW...he didn't 'perform' well and she doesn't want him that way. But who knows what could happen at a wedding weekend when everyone starts coupling up?

* I got checked out months ago. He was horrified at the thought he could have given me something. He really hadn't given it a thought during...

I'm off to mull the other stuff, though.

There is a faith based book that I would like to recommend:

Love must be tough by Dr. James Dobson.

It addresses a lot of your questions from a faith based perspective.