I enjoy these nights. I love going in and seeing the classrooms and talking to the teachers. It's fun for me.
That being said, I'm fucking pissed. This is husband related but not infidelity related which is why I'm posting here.
I'm sitting at DS10's desk and I'm tidying it a bit before the teacher starts her speech. His first comment "shouldn't he being doing that?" It wasn't a mess but I like to just move things about a bit so my son knows I looked in his desk.
Then the teacher starts her speech. I'm listening, he's about 6 ft away from me. She starts talking about this online program for grades and assignments etc...(I have issues with this as I feel if a bank can have their sites hacked and have acct numbers stolen then so can a school. Maybe I'm a bit over protective of my children and their privacy, I don't know) At this point she mentioned that she only has one code to hand out that night and if there's a "multi-home." (read divorced) family who needs another code to contact the guidance office. One father cracks a joke and says "Oh I see, the one code is for the mom's blah, blah, blah." Most people got a chuckle out of it. Not my husband. He took complete offense. I have no idea why. The teacher didn't single anyone out, didn't say it in a nasty way, nothing. He was so offended he was visibly pissed off.
Then she brings up 9/11. She said that she didn't feel that it was something to be discussed in school (paraphrasing). She did talk about it but kept it more on the lighter side and said how the first responders are heroes because of what they did and she talked about the rescue dogs and how we all came together etc... I thought that was a nice way to talk about 9/11. Guess who got offended again? Now, he's tapping his foot, and the expression on his face was that he wanted to explode. I really don't know what his issue is.
The teacher "held us after class" to talk about a few things, nothing bad and I made a comment about DS10 having low self-esteem. Another mistake on my part.
So we finally leave and are in the car and wants to talk (even though he ignores me every other day) about the low self-esteem comment I made. I told him that is what son said about him in the paper work from when he was in 2nd grade going through some testing. He said he didn't remember that because it was 2nd grade. I kept this part to myself and thought "that's because you didn't read any of it."
Then he brings up the divorce comment and how he was so offended. I was shocked and asked why. I said "it's 2013 there's divorces couples all over the place. All she was saying is that she only had one code." His response was "I don't know, I just found it offensive." Fine...
Then he brings up 9/11 and how it shouldn't be left out of schools etc... I said "I don't think that's what she meant. I took it that she felt the parents should decided what their children learn about it because they'll know what they can handle and what they can't." I then said, "I don't see a problem with her keeping it on the lighter side." He goes off saying it's important for the kids to learn about it (I agree) and it shouldn't be left out (I agree). He was saying more that I don't remember now because it was getting heated.
So now he's not happy with me. Why, I have no idea. I'm just able to see many different sides to certain issues and I understand where other people's reasoning behind things. I didn't find anything offensive about last night.
This morning I checked his twitter timeline(it's public so if I gave you his username you'd be able to read what I read. I don't have his password). I already know I need to stop this. Anyway... I'm reading his tweets and he's bashing me and the teacher to his gaming buddies over the divorce comment and 9/11. Then he says "my wife backed the school up! WTF!" So am I not allowed to have my own opinion on issues? Am I not allowed to speak about them? Do I have agree with everything he says and does? That's what I'm pissed about. Whenever I say anything he twists it to his friends.
I could say more about the other things he's said about me AND our son but I'm trying to stay on topic.
I just got off the phone with my mom and told her all about it. She can't believe it.
Ugh! I'm so pissed! This is why I don't say anything.
If you've made it this far thank you for reading. I really needed to get this off my chest. Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Him - (Doesn't matter)
D-Day June 12th 2008, D-Day #2 Sept 28th
D-Day #3 Feb 15th & 16th 2010, D-Day #4 Nov 29th 2010