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User Topic: Ashley Madison
Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 1:23 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Jrazz)))

You may have to come out here and drink a delicious bottle of wine with me and to spread your glitter all around


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 196385 | Registered: May 2002
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 1:28 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

and is now reaping his rewards.
Yup, he is. Lost a few multi million dollar lawsuits brought against him. Spent over a year in jail and I believe is now facing another year in jail. YAY!

Thanks DS and MH. Right??? The world is really upside down, isn't it?


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9404 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You may have to come out here and drink a delicious bottle of wine with me and to spread your glitter all around

It's a date!


We are what we repeatedly do, excellence, then is not an act but a habit. - Aristotle

Posts: 16344 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
surviving1963
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Default  Posted: 2:25 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Anything for a buck these days... My WH forgot to log out of his Ashley Madison account- BIG MISTAKE on his part! It caused me unspeakable pain. He said it was just a joke - haha! You have to set up a separate email and he paid $250.00 for a full membership. I printed out all 16 pages of his profile including the women he emailed, the transaction report showing what he paid...etc etc. So disgusting! Only trash would use that website. Where can I go to donate $$ to SI. A website so worthwhile!!


Me: 50
WH: 50 pro cake-eater, NPD, SA
Married 33 years
D-Days 3-4-12, 8-19-12 (EA, probably PA)porn,ashleymadison, etc, etc
4 sons, 3 daughters
8 grandkids
Divorcing - finally

Posts: 105 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Utah
Tred
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Default  Posted: 2:30 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

surviving - there is a Donation link on the top left of the web page.

I'm still expecting to meet a BS on this site whose H knows my wife from AM...


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 3741 | Registered: Dec 2011
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 2:34 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tred - I've had the same thoughts here. Pretty sure the timelines don't match up, or wasband could have been that guy.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


Posts: 24406 | Registered: Aug 2011
heartache101
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Default  Posted: 2:43 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I could never be a business owner in something so low as AM. I want to be proud of who I am and be a positive influence on society. This AM owner needs a new awakening and I hope Karma gives it to him 2 fold!


There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing

Posts: 3184 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Indiana
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 3:02 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

AM is just one of many, but AM is pretty ballsy with their ads, on billboards, radio etc.

Shortly after Dday, they started running ads on some radio stations here, and I emailed each station and the parent company with a strongly worded letter in regard to boycotting the stations until the ads were pulled, I then forwarded the letter I wrote to all my friends, and family members and asked that they do the same thing to just put their names on it.
The ads ran their time on whatever contract they had paid for. But the good news is they have not had them since.
I know cheaters will find a way to cheat, but an ad that says life is short have an affair makes me want to hurt the creator.

Oh really that's a great use of your short time on this earth, to destroy lives, create agony, break trust, live in complete and total stress of being caught? just ew.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 7795 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Where can I go to donate $$ to SI. A website so worthwhile!!

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/donations.asp


We are what we repeatedly do, excellence, then is not an act but a habit. - Aristotle

Posts: 16344 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Holly-Isis
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Default  Posted: 3:35 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Part of me keeps hoping the guy who started it gets cheated on.

And I also keep hoping that someone in an AoA state tries to drag them into a lawsuit...and wins.

Ashley Madison fills a need.

See. This may be semantics but I think this is a big problem. People these days don't know needs from wants and in pursuing the wants they feel are important, they begin to tell themselves what they're doing is ok because it's a need.

I need sex.
I need to be happy.
I need to get my way.
I need someone who listens...and agrees.

Needs are food, water, air...in some cases shelter. Depending on the social norms around you, you might need education in order to be able to earn funds for those other needs. Or need a healthy body to grow and build for your needs.

We want to be happy. We want people to admire us. We even want sex.

AM and any other similar site does not fill a need.Though I will (somewhat) contradict myself and say SI fills a need. Without it, I know some of us BSs would be dead because of the great pain and trying to wade through it alone, not having the coping skills. I can't think of a single A that filled a need where the WS or AP would've died if they did not commit adultery.

[This message edited by Holly-Isis at 3:47 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)]


"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

❣I hope my issues don't discourage ur healing. I've buried a lot & my WH hasn't done his part in R❣


Posts: 10986 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: Limbo
Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep, my H was on AFF, just like AM. My IC told me these sites are considered a gateway drug to sex addiction, and the dealer is in your pocket at all times (cell phone). So yeah, hubs chose to cheat, but I still hate those sites.


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


Posts: 615 | Registered: May 2013
MissMarple
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Default  Posted: 3:42 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was blissfully unaware that such horrid cheater sites existed, until I found out that my WH had been using them. Craigslist was free, (well, the meet-ups weren't, ugh) but he PAID MONEY for his Ashley Madison and Adult Friend Finder accounts. So. Much. Rage.


BS (me) 29
WH 29
Married for 7 years
One son age 4
D-day 4-29-13
Multiple hookers on Craigslist!!!
Getting ready to file.

Posts: 33 | Registered: May 2013
Tearsoflove
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Default  Posted: 4:39 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My husband never signed up for AM but he did sign up for a couple others. However, the other day I was in his email looking for a registration code for something we both use and he had spam from Ashley Madison. It essentially said he should have an affair with married women because they would keep the secret because they had as much to lose as he did. I laughed out loud. His second affair was with a married woman. Sure, she kept the secret. But she was conspicuous so her husband started snooping and found out.

For both affairs, my husband was traveling for work. I wouldn't have known about the affair with the single woman if he hadn't told me (unless she decided to contact me)and if his second affair hadn't been with a married woman, I might not have known about that one either. Her husband called me a month after he got home from his trip.

The whole Ashley Madison premise is idiotic. The fact is, you might have an affair and it stay a secret. But the more people involved, the less likely that is. A real secret is only known by the one person who has it. Anytime any other person knows your secrets, there is potential for them getting out.


"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson


Posts: 3946 | Registered: Sep 2005
surviving1963
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Default  Posted: 4:58 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Made my donation to this worthy cause. I agree - this website is a need... It helps to keep me sane. Hugs to all of you going through the same "hell" as me.


Me: 50
WH: 50 pro cake-eater, NPD, SA
Married 33 years
D-Days 3-4-12, 8-19-12 (EA, probably PA)porn,ashleymadison, etc, etc
4 sons, 3 daughters
8 grandkids
Divorcing - finally

Posts: 105 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Utah
Mauimom1
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Default  Posted: 5:09 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I signed up for this site for free, no profile or pics. I'm hoping to recognize someone from my neck of the woods and expose them to their spouse. It's absolutely disgusting and pathetic.

Posts: 82 | Registered: Jun 2012
Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 5:35 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I signed up too, so I could sort the truth from the bullshit. I went out there once. Me:
All I could think was "these fucked up people walk amongst us???"
My H had his face on there. I wonder every day who saw it. It's horrifying.


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


Posts: 615 | Registered: May 2013
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 8:09 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

XWH found the Owife on there. I find it both sickening and sad that we live in such an era of rampant, selfish entitlement that a site like that would make any money.

But, like Holly-Isis said... we confuse our wants and needs. That's why people are in ridiculous amounts of credit card debt, have affairs, and behave in other ways that feel good in the moment but will have a nasty ripple effect on not just their lives but in the lives of their loved ones for years to come.

I can't tell you how many students I've had over the years who come from households where the parents clearly put themselves first and consider their children an afterthought. Instead of thinking in the long term-- how can I best raise my children so that they have a shot at a stable, productive adulthood-- they think about what they want in the moment and then get angry when the school system doesn't raise their child for them, and the kid has lots of problems. I even had a kid write an essay about how his dad cheated on his mom and left the family for his AP. That jerk probably has no idea how much he's devastated his son, and he probably didn't give his son two thoughts when he started engaging in the A. His son hates him now and will no longer talk to his dad.

But hey, you know-- life is short; have an affair. They should also add to that tagline "because it's ALL about what YOU want right now, and nothing else matters."


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3537 | Registered: Oct 2011
outtanowhere
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Default  Posted: 8:30 PM, September 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I believe site like this exploit the broken people who are drawn into the notion that having an affair will make their dreams come true.

I'm ready to join the protest. Add in Craigslist, Backpage, Sexbook, etc......too many to count!


BS - 57
SAWH - 60 multiple encounters with prostitutes and other sex workers
Married 37 years
Dday - 2/19/13 - found the emails
He promised me Heaven then put me thru hell

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