Well, I'm not a Christian, so you may have to take this with a grain of salt. However, I also don't think that God approves of finding hookers on Craigslist either. It may not state that directly in the Bible, but had Craigslist existed when it was written it probably would have been included.
I can't imagine any church implying that you should tolerate abuse like that just to please God. You are worthy of much more and I think God thinks so too.
I'm not a believer but a big "Amen" to this.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Best book on the subject is Divorce and Remarriage in the Church. It gives you what scripture says in context and culture and will give you much peace moving forward. That book is the reason I made the first move in filing for divorce. I wanted to follow God's word exactly when it came to both divorce an a possible remarriage.
I told him this:
Every orthopedic surgeon would say they hate amputation. They hate doing it, they hate seeing it, they hate the pain and anguish and trauma and permanency of it all. But, they also know that sometimes it is necessary, and can be the best thing in the end. I think that is how God sees/hates divorce. He of all beings understands completely what it is to be betrayed.
I DO believe that God's will for me at this point is to be out of this marriage and I am completely comfortable with the fact that I am now divorced. I have no issues with being remarried either.
I can not understand any religion that would say you must stay married to a man that cheats on you and breaks the vows he made in front of God and man.
Find a few new churches in your area to attend. God doesn't care where you worship. Honestly, he told me. Living in the bible belt even in this day in age, it is accepted that spouses of partners who choose infidelity are not only ok, but are supported, and helped by the church members, not judged.
During my divorce, at a social function at very religious friend's house, I was talking with her minister about things. His take on it was pretty simple, no god doesn't want you to get a divorce but he didn't god wanted you to put up with non-biblical behaviour. He summed it up as the 3As - Affairs, Abuse, Addiction. He wouldn't counsel people to stay married if they had tried to work it out and were dealing with any or all of those three things.
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
Hopefully I can help support other women in my area that are facing similar scenarios. I hope to set an example of strength and courage
I can't say enough about DivorceCare. I love it.
Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson
That being said, that people.. church elders or otherwise.. who would advocate staying in a toxic and abusive relationship are not worth giving the time of day.